- Other Emotional Issues
- Anger Management
- Football Star Uses New Acupressure Technique to Calm his Road Rage -- No Drugs Needed
- Transgender person with abusive mother relieves rage with EFT
- Anger case--the urge to explode
- Even dropping the kids off at school provides tapping opportunities - an anger issue
- Using EFT to self-calm an intense anger tantrum
- Useful thoughts on anger by Stewart Robertson
- Releasing anger at parents allowed healing of ulcerative colitis and headaches
- Suppressed anger expelled via the stomach
- EFT for self righteous anger
- Getting over a gang rape--including a follow-up
- EFT alleviates horrendous self-hatred and rage
- Calming down Teddy, an emotionally disturbedboy
- EFT for anger underlying ALS
- An unusual anger release
- Anger in a homeless shelter
- A murderous rage is calmed with EFT
- Intuitional work with anger
- A First Class use of Surrogate EFT for Bill's anger and behavior issues
- EFT Transforms "hopping-mad" anger
- Anger and Hostility are Proven to Damage Lungs; Simple Acupressure Technique Offers a Solution
- Anger case history from a client
- EFT for workplace anger
- Josh: Building rapport with children--anger & behavior problems.
- EFT for anger helps both Ann and her angry husband--note the surrogate approach
- Unbearable hatred toward classmates
- Using EFT for on-the-spot "hopping mad" anger
- Surrogate EFT for fighting neighbors
- Brandon's Story--anger problem becomes history: (including an update at the end)
- EFT for deep seated anger
- EFT and severe mental illness--a murderous impulse
- An interesting approach to EFT and road rage
- Anger management approach for a polarity responder
- The cause of our anger isn't always as it appears
- A client talks about her abusive childhood and her relief via EFT
- Resentments relieved 22 years after a poor birthing experience
- EFT resolves long term resentment
- The EFT Cooling Tower Technique for Letting off Steam
- Press Release: Can a One-Minute Anger Management Technique Reduce Injury Risk and Chronic Illness?
- Releasing anger patterns with EFT
- A client resolves lifelong anger on her own
- Clearing anger and self loathing with EFT via introduction to inner child
- Stubborn anger issue falls to 0 with emphatic "say what you feel" wording.
- Road Rage and hives disappear in one session after getting to the core issue
- New Technique Helps Avoid Heart Damage by Diffusing Anger Within Marital Arguments
- The client who continually felt resentful
- Employee overcomes anger at supervisor
- Jonas uses EFT for deeper meditation - dangerous PSA reading is now only 0.4
- School Counselor on anger and tension,
- Getting behind a successful EFT anger case
- Depression on Death Row
- EFT Newcomer eliminates his own deep depression and anxiety disorder
- An intimate look at Depression
- EFT instead of shock treatments?
- From depressed and suicidal ... to ... "I laugh all the time
- What was REALLY causing Anne's depression?
- EFT student eases his wife's suicidal thoughts
- Louella: Depression, pesticides and low blood sugar
- A successful but involved depression case--"I don't want to tell you how well I'm doing"
- EFT resolves 12 years of postnatal depression
- Long term severe depression gone in ten minutes
- Jaqui Crooks used EFT to overcome her Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)
- Maggie eliminates her own depression
- Surrogate tapping and its effect on depression.
- Persistent EFT by Email on depression, anger and anxiety
- Cross dressing, sexuality and depression
- After 15 years of therapy, including shock therapy, EFT helps release depression
- A case that didn't work--and some suggestions
- A first class look at using EFT for a complex case - depression, guilt, grief and abandonment
- Was it really a manic/depressive disorder?
- A textbook depression case--a "one minute wonder" complete with belief changes
- Approaching Depression with the Tearless Trauma Technique
- Major results for anxiety, depression and social issues from one thorough EFT session and consistent EFT "homework"
- Success with a skeptical, depressed scientist - follow up included
- Depression, low self esteem and childhood traumas
- Persistence and a challenging case - Incest, abuse, depression, anxiety attacks, nightmares and flashbacks
- A mis-diagnosed manic/depressive disorder
- Depression with numerous underlying issues
- Hair loss and facial blemishes fade after EFT relieves important emotional issues -- Depression too!
- Adrienne, a physician
- Gary discusses depression and some new ideas
- A non-therapist does superb work on depression--including her own.
- Newbie uses EFT on depression, allergic reactions and more
- 30+ years of depression gone in 2 minutes
- EFT saves a life by rapidly resolving suicidal depression
- Depression and confusion about God
- EFT on personal depression--"I was angry at myself"
- Press Release: New Method for Depression Often Works When Nothing Else Will
- Dr. Patricia Carrington on depression--a detailed discussion, including meds
- Depression, height phobia and claustrophobia eliminated in one session
- Depression related to guilt
- When depression comes from a related issue
- Depression Drugs and Migraine Drugs Don't Always Do The Job
- Panic And Anxiety
- Test anxiety
- Using EFT for Social Anxiety Disorder
- Surgeon Uses New Acupressure Technique to Lower Surgery Risk
- Overcoming Test Anxiety with New Drug-Free Technique: 80% Success Rate
- Daily tapping for Panic Attacks
- Anxiety related to atrial fibrillation is calmed with EFT
- Performance anxiety and many aspects
- EFT brings relief for trauma, anxiety, and an overactive bladder, all in less than an hour
- Travel Anxiety--using the Tell the Story Technique
- Febrile convulsions and related panic attacks subside--not one attack in the two years since she learned to use EFT
- Successful surrogate tapping for surgery anxiety
- Persistence and Panic Attacks - Quality results on a stubborn issue
- Getting to the core of "Mark's" anxiety
- EFT for overeating and panic attacks
- Performance anxiety at a music camp
- Gayla uses EFT for panic
- Using EFT for panic when nobody is around
- New Method for Treating Anxiety Works When Conventional Treatments Fail
- Clearing social anxiety with EFT
- Two surrogate tapping cases: Dental anxiety and severe stomach ache
- Panic Attacks: Getting behind the thought process
- Husband relieves wife of major panic attack
- EFT newcomer rids himself of social anxiety
- Relief for another stress related cough
- Detective work crucial in relief for panic attacks
- Combining EFT with the Inner Theater approach for panic attacks
- Testing your EFT work: Feeling trapped and panic attacks
- A Quality "How To Do It" Session for Fear and Anxiety
- Diagnosed as a schizophrenic, Gregoire had anxiety, stress and insomnia
- Current "in your face" anxiety and stress case
- EFT makes good progress with panic, agoraphobia and feeling like a failure
- Sports anxiety, heat sensitivity, being away from home, loneliness, fear of insects.
- 20 year old abduction anxiety calmed with EFT
- Collapsing a client's anxiety from the 9/11 disaster--with 4 year follow-up
- Anxiety and the fear of being alone
- EFT student uses tapping to immediately calm down after a major car accident
- Medical school test anxiety--from C's and D's to A's and B's
- Success story with 10 day anxiety attack
- Surgery anxiety and EFT
- EFT helps adult learners overcome school and math anxiety
- EFT on a case of extreme separation anxiety in a dog and the importance of Core Issues for Animals
- Study Shows Simple Drug-Free Acupressure Technique Reduces Dental Anxiety
- Detective work provides help for an anxiety disorder
- Imagination tapping on the finger points reduces stress level to zero
- Using EFT for a client who feels out of control.
- One EFT round with Deborah's daughter relieves performance anxiety
- Eric Robins, MD and Lisa Cox on surgery anxieties
- Severe anxiety client has his life back
- EFT Newbie resolves her own major trip anxiety
- Panic attacks and heart palpitations subside after doing EFT on dreams
- Anxiety, eating and more
- Success in neutralizing unwanted memories without the client disclosing the content
- Newcomer uses EFT to collapse his own panic-attacks and writes letter to "Quackwatch"
- A detailed panic attack case
- Non-therapist relieves stress in the form of a temper tantrum
- EFT for panic attacks
- Who Would Have Thought That Acupressure Could Relieve Social Anxiety Better Than Drugs or Therapy?
- Daddy left me. Will my new boyfriend leave me too?
- Courtroom anxiety AND anxiety about calling employers
- One EFT phone session resolves driving test anxiety -- and the benefits expand
- Panic attacks and fear of darkness
- Addressing Generalized Anxiety Disorder by aiming EFT at specific events
- OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder)
- EFT may be a great relief to grief-stricken nurses who lose patients
- Fresh grief and a double benefit.
- Grief changes to smiles
- Attorney helps client by using EFT for long term unresolved grief
- A grief case with many aspects
- Uncontrollable grief resolved with EFT
- When certain music triggers grief and sadness
- Freedom from grief in only 15 minutes
- Relieving grief over the death of Higgins the dog
- EFT turns grief into beauty
- EFT eliminates unnecessary grief emotions and softens the grieving process - includes 2 month follow up
- Using EFT for Bereavement
- Community relief from grief with EFT
- EFT brings healing to a whole family while one woman heals her grief
- EFT for grief and pet loss
- This new Widow was helped in many ways by EFT
- EFT for pain and grief for a birth mother who wasn't allowed to see her child -- a touching story with a happy ending
- Getting to important emotions by doing EFT while looking in the mirror
- Tapping through grief leads to incredible insight and relief
- EFT setup statements for grief
- An easy grief case with an aspect that showed up later
- Imaginary tapping sends grief away
- EFT for love pain
- Shared tapping provides benefits for relationship issues
- EFT Instead of the psych ward after a relationship breaks up
- Taking relationships work to a new level--The Odd Couple
- EFT and meditation for a broken heart
- Insights into picking up another person
- EFT heals a broken heart in rapid time
- Using EFT to improve a relationship
- EFT, One Minute Wonders and Opening to Love
- EFT by telephone smoothes out a tense family reunion
- Tapping on relationship issues
- Interesting way to use EFT & Tappy Bear for a broken heart
- Relationships, EFT and Spirituality
- Improve relationships by Tapping in the Positive
- Using EFT for relationship issues--a detailed case
- Tapping into a state of Love
- EFT resolves a 10 year heartbreak
- "I didn't like kissing my wife after she drank coffee."
- Jack improves his relationship with his grandson using surrogate EFT
- Addressing relationship and family issues by tapping on photographs
- How clearing an intense cough led to improved family relationships--an EFT two-for-one EFT benefit
- MD introduces an innovative idea that brings relief for stubborn relationship issue
- Finding the love you want by healing the inner child
- Relationship Issue: "My husband was being a jerk"
- Using EFT to prepare for a difficult encounter
- EFT is instrumental in bringing a couple back together
- Relationships - on "Being Right"
- Instant relationship fix?
- Relationship issue: A humorous approach
- What holds you back from your lover?
- Combining role playing with EFT for relationships and other issues
- Using EFT for a Broken Heart
- The Healing Power of Forgiveness
- Love, Intuition, Patience and EFT help a schizophrenic 15 year old.
- EFT for Couples
- Retired Stanford professor fixes his wife's computer with EFT
- Relationship success after finding core issue
- EFT to heal family relationships
- Using EFT on "blocking thoughts" to good relationships
- Surrogate EFT heals a broken heart for a 16 year old boy
- Writing a letter
- Reframes (seeing things differently) for guilt, shame and sorrow
- Restless leg syndrome linked to guilt - 20 years of restlessness gone in 2 sessions
- How to reduce guilt via an EFT "Tapping Circle" -- keeping privacy for everyone
- The "Tapping the System" Technique
- The Rolling EFT process
- Using EFT for unnecessary guilt - Did EFT get someone's husband to cook dinner?
- How Guilt and Shame Block the Law of Attraction
- Stubborn guilt finally subsides after doing a search on our website and DVDs for ideas
- EFT and infertility
- A bout of cystitis turns out to be a bout of guilt
- Psychotherapy Dramatically Improved By New 'Acupuncture Without Needles' Technique
- New Acupressure Discovery Reduces Stress 4 Ways: 80% Success Rate
- Many Stressed Women Abandon Healthy Lifestyle Habits: Simple Acupressure Technique Offers a Solution
- To Physicians: New Discoveries in Acupressure Promise Everything From Alertness to Pain and Stress Management
- A new do-it-yourself approach to acupressure alleviates stress and, in turn neutralizes cold, flu an
- Eating Disorders
- Joe resolves his Anorexia...and more
- Love, diligence and an eating disorder
- Michal describes what it is like to be free from an eating disorder
- Two Year Bulimia Problem Gets Major Assist in One Hour
- A Bulimia "one session wonder"
- Bulimia in Brazil
- "Acceptance Tapping" - A powerful EFT treatment variation for severe compulsive disorders and bulimia.
- Anger Management
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Other Emotional Issues
Using EFT to prepare for a difficult encounter
Note: This is one of 3,000 articles written prior to the updated Gold Standard (Official) EFT Tapping Tutorial™. As a result, it is likely outdated. It provides practical uses for EFT Tapping but you should also explore our newest advancement, Optimal EFT, by reading our free e-book, The Unseen Therapist™, and/or get help from a Certified EFT Practitioner.
Watch how Nancy Morris uses EFT to help her brother over a stressful situation. He needed to tell the lady he lives with that he is no longer happy with the situation and wants a change. Oh my! Can you feel the anxiety already? Many aspects come up, of course, all of which are appropriately handled by Nancy.
My only brother, Kevin, flew out to California to spend a week with me. We are separated by 12 years in age and 3,000 miles but we are very caring and loving with each other. As our week together progressed, he confided that he was no longer happy with his living situation at home and had been wanting to change it for five months but was afraid of the confrontation and resulting upset. As in all live-in situations, especially with children (hers), finances, and pets involved, it was complex.
As our week together went on he shared more and more about what he was unhappy about and I asked probing questions to see if there was a possible resolution. It seemed there was not. Let me say that Kevin has never done a workshop, never read a self-help book, and never been to any kind of therapist or counselor. I was hesitant to even tell him too much about EFT for fear of turning him off completely with this woo-woo stuff I'm so thrilled about.
However, as the week drew to a close, Kevin continued to ask me, his big sister for advice. "When is the best time to talk to Mary?" We explored the possibilities together, trying to find the right time to talk in private without kids around. "What do I do when I get home? How can I be truthful about what is going on without opening up the BIG conversation at an inappropriate time (again trying to protect Mary's children)? How can I talk to her? What can I say to help her to understand?" He wanted her to know the positive feelings he had for her and the kids, yet be clear about changing the living situation, and didn't know how to proceed.
These questions, and more like them, were clearly pressing on him as we had dinner together his last evening in California. He would bring up his concerns whenever there was a lull in the conversation. He was flying out early the next morning to return back East and still did not have his answers.
By the time we got home and ready for bed, it was late and he was still looking for answers. So I finally said, "Kevin, come in here and we'll do just 15 minutes of EFT. I promise it will help." I thought he'd resist, but he just grabbed a chair and sat across from me. I told him very briefly that this would help remove his fear of this confrontation thereby helping him to stay present to himself and therefore remain kind and thoughtful during their discussion. He accepted this.
We each began by tapping the karate chop points on the sides of our hands against each other, we addressed any general psychological reversal present (for both he and I, we both did this on ourselves).
Even though this is such a weird thing to be doing…
Even though my sister Nancy has this really strange technique that might help, I'm not sure, but I deeply and completely accept myself and her anyway.
Even though all my friends would laugh at me if they could see me doing this voodoo, I deeply and completely accept myself and my sister as we are.
We were smiling as we got into the truth of all this. I thought we might as well get the elephant in the room right out in the open before we began.
I told him there would be tapping gently on his face and torso and he could do it, or I could do it for him. He preferred that I do it which also felt right to me; he could concentrate on the issues and not worry about where and how to tap. We started right into it.
His level of intensity regarding the upcoming conversation was an 8 on a scale of 0 to 10 at this point. Then we did the setup for his difficult situation and how to handle it while he rubbed the sore spot on his chest:
Even though I'm afraid to talk to Mary about my needs…
Even though I'm really scared to talk to Mary when I get home…
Even though I'm really dreading talking to Mary about this…
We tapped through two full rounds with reminder phrases such as, My fear … my dread … my fear of talking to Mary. After this, his level of intensity went down to 3 out of 10 so the edge was off the general incident.
Because I already knew a lot about his situation and it was late, I wanted him to get very specific about what exactly he was afraid would happen. I asked Kevin to close his eyes and picture himself telling Mary how he felt. I asked him what was his worst fear about this? What could she do or say that would be terrible?
His answer was that she could "flip out, throw things, swear and yell at him.” Had she ever behaved this way before? No, but he was still afraid of it. His level of intensity on these specific fears was a 9 out of 10. Another setup,
Even though I'm afraid Mary will yell and scream…
Even though I'm afraid Mary may throw things…
Even though I'm afraid Mary may flip out…
After two rounds his level of intensity was down to a 3 out of 10. For the next round I included some more acceptance of Mary and her difficult situation as well as trusting himself.
Even though I'm afraid Mary will flip out, I deeply and completely accept myself and trust that I will stay calm.
Even though I'm afraid Mary will flip out, I deeply and completely accept myself and Mary, I know she's doing the best she can.
Even though I'm afraid Mary will flip out, I deeply and completely accept myself and I know if I stay calm and present, it will help her to remain calm.
I tapped on Kevin for one round including, just on instinct, his throat down through his heart chakra and his solar plexus. This seemed to relax him and calm him. After this round when I asked him to imagine the worst possible reaction from Mary, he said he was unable to really feel it; it just "seemed too far away". His level of intensity was 0 out of 10.
It still felt to me like there was more there because he asked again about how he would know when to talk to her. I pursued this asking why this was important. He wanted to be sure the kids were not around; he was afraid Mary would run into the children's room and tell them it was "all their fault". Ah, a new aspect had shown up. His level of intensity on this was 10 out of 10.
Since there was no way to predict exactly what situation he would be in when he got home, I thought it best to focus on his strength in a difficult situation and his ability to remain calm and thus help Mary to remain calm, and his wisdom to know what to do regardless of the situation that developed.
Even though I'm nervous about this conversation, I love and accept myself and I know I can remain calm.
Even though I'm really nervous about this conversation, I love and accept myself and want to believe I have the wisdom to handle it well.
Even though I'm nervous about this conversation, I know I am a loving man and I can remain loving and calm and those around me will feel this coming from me.
For this round I asked Kevin to tap on himself so he would feel empowered and so that he would be more likely to remember the tapping points and rhythm when he was at home. I used the reminder phrases, I am a loving man … I can remain calm in a tough situation … I am a kind man … I have the wisdom to know when it is right to have the conversation … I have the wisdom to know how to handle whatever comes up. His level of intensity went down to 0 out of 10 after three rounds of tapping.
Kevin looked and felt like a changed man after this short session. You can imagine how wonderfully satisfying it was for me to be able to help him this way; he had been so distressed. I had recently read something on emofree.com (can't remember by whom) that suggested that there is a way to hold the gamut point and the karate chop point on one hand with the other hand in order to calm yourself when you don't want others to know you are doing EFT.
I showed Kevin how to do this (thumb on the gamut and index finger on the karate chop point just an inch below the baby finger). I suggested he could just hold his hands this way during any difficult situation or discussion at work or at home and no one would know. He liked this idea and took it seriously to learn what spots to hold; this felt so good to have a give-away to send him home with as a calming reminder. Thank you to whoever came up with that!
As a long-time counselor but fairly new EFT practitioner these are the lessons I learned:
1. Even though someone has never done anything remotely close to therapy or personal development, they may be very open and accepting of EFT. Kevin was immediately able to identify his special tapping "spot" (without my asking) and volunteered that he could feel his emotion draining away as soon as he got to the under-the-eye tapping point.
2. Knowing someone very well or being related to them would be a definite no-no to working with them in a formal therapy situation. With EFT, knowing someone's history and having love and trust in place can actually assist movement. This will only be true if the practitioner can truly follow the client and let themselves be led, not try to lead the session. EFT through us, not by us! Best advice ever.
I asked Kevin to imagine the upcoming conversation he wanted to have with Mary in detail. He closed his eyes and reviewed for a minute or two and then declared that he wasn't worried at all. He felt confident that he could handle it with kindness while making sure he was heard. His level of intensity was zero. We'd spent no more than 15 or 20 minutes and both went to bed feeling relaxed and calm.
I followed up with Kevin a week later. He said that they had hired a babysitter for the kids so that they could be alone to talk. The babysitter canceled at the last minute. They were able to put the kids to bed early and talk quietly and rationally for a few hours and arrive at a plan for the future that feels good to both of them. Kevin said he had done EFT on himself once before the conversation and had used the "holding point" on his hands a few times. He felt that all of this was a big help to having "the difficult conversation" go very well and he and Mary (who is a wonderful woman) were working to help each other get what they want.
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