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Anger Management

Getting behind a successful EFT anger case

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Hi Everyone,

Stefan Gonick helps his client realize that long term anger isn't always justified. Sometimes (often?) it is based on irrational thoughts.

Hugs, Gary


By Stefan Gonick

I had a series of three clients recently where tapping on their anger didn't initially help much at all.  In each case, the offense was a bad one that happened a very long time ago.  There was nothing to be done or even said to the offending person, and in one case the person was dead.  Each of these clients were aware that the offending person was not being affected at all by their anger and that they were the only ones suffering.  However, tapping was not relieving their anger.

When this happened with the first client, we were initially stuck for a while, but then I had a flash of intuition.  I asked my client whether she felt that letting go of her anger would mean that the other person would somehow "get away with" what he did?  A light bulb went off and she strongly agreed.

It came out that she subconsciously felt that her anger was, in a cosmic justice sort of way, keeping the other person "accountable" for what he did.  She was afraid that if she let go of her anger, it would mean that it "didn't matter" what he did to her and he would "get away with it" without any consequences.  The dilemma was that the only person actually being affected by her anger was her, but letting go of her anger felt like it would be to his benefit.  So, we tapped on:

Even though he'll get away with what he did without my anger...

Even though he won't be accountable without my anger...

Even though it won't matter what he did to me without my anger...

Later in the tapping we included affirming phrases like,

I release him to the Universe

He is subject to his own karma

I choose peace for myself

After a several rounds of this kind of tapping, my client's anger was gone, and she felt great relief and peace around the issue.

After encountering this same situation with the next two clients in a row, I felt that this insight might be helpful to others.  So, if you find yourself having a hard time relieving your anger through tapping, look deeper within to see if issues of "cosmic justice" are getting in your way.

Hugs to all,

Stefan Gonick, EFT Practitioner & Trainer

 

 

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