- Other Emotional Issues
- Anger Management
- Josh: Building rapport with children--anger & behavior problems.
- EFT for anger helps both Ann and her angry husband--note the surrogate approach
- Unbearable hatred toward classmates
- Anger and Hostility are Proven to Damage Lungs; Simple Acupressure Technique Offers a Solution
- Anger case history from a client
- EFT for workplace anger
- EFT and severe mental illness--a murderous impulse
- An interesting approach to EFT and road rage
- Using EFT for on-the-spot "hopping mad" anger
- Surrogate EFT for fighting neighbors
- Brandon's Story--anger problem becomes history: (including an update at the end)
- EFT for deep seated anger
- EFT resolves long term resentment
- The EFT Cooling Tower Technique for Letting off Steam
- Anger management approach for a polarity responder
- The cause of our anger isn't always as it appears
- A client talks about her abusive childhood and her relief via EFT
- Resentments relieved 22 years after a poor birthing experience
- Stubborn anger issue falls to 0 with emphatic "say what you feel" wording.
- Road Rage and hives disappear in one session after getting to the core issue
- Press Release: Can a One-Minute Anger Management Technique Reduce Injury Risk and Chronic Illness?
- Releasing anger patterns with EFT
- A client resolves lifelong anger on her own
- Clearing anger and self loathing with EFT via introduction to inner child
- School Counselor on anger and tension,
- Getting behind a successful EFT anger case
- New Technique Helps Avoid Heart Damage by Diffusing Anger Within Marital Arguments
- The client who continually felt resentful
- Employee overcomes anger at supervisor
- Jonas uses EFT for deeper meditation - dangerous PSA reading is now only 0.4
- Using EFT to self-calm an intense anger tantrum
- Useful thoughts on anger by Stewart Robertson
- Football Star Uses New Acupressure Technique to Calm his Road Rage -- No Drugs Needed
- Transgender person with abusive mother relieves rage with EFT
- Anger case--the urge to explode
- Even dropping the kids off at school provides tapping opportunities - an anger issue
- Getting over a gang rape--including a follow-up
- EFT alleviates horrendous self-hatred and rage
- Calming down Teddy, an emotionally disturbedboy
- EFT for anger underlying ALS
- Releasing anger at parents allowed healing of ulcerative colitis and headaches
- Suppressed anger expelled via the stomach
- EFT for self righteous anger
- Intuitional work with anger
- A First Class use of Surrogate EFT for Bill's anger and behavior issues
- EFT Transforms "hopping-mad" anger
- An unusual anger release
- Anger in a homeless shelter
- A murderous rage is calmed with EFT
- A textbook depression case--a "one minute wonder" complete with belief changes
- Approaching Depression with the Tearless Trauma Technique
- After 15 years of therapy, including shock therapy, EFT helps release depression
- A case that didn't work--and some suggestions
- A first class look at using EFT for a complex case - depression, guilt, grief and abandonment
- Was it really a manic/depressive disorder?
- Depression with numerous underlying issues
- Major results for anxiety, depression and social issues from one thorough EFT session and consistent EFT "homework"
- Success with a skeptical, depressed scientist - follow up included
- Depression, low self esteem and childhood traumas
- Persistence and a challenging case - Incest, abuse, depression, anxiety attacks, nightmares and flashbacks
- A mis-diagnosed manic/depressive disorder
- Newbie uses EFT on depression, allergic reactions and more
- Hair loss and facial blemishes fade after EFT relieves important emotional issues -- Depression too!
- Adrienne, a physician
- Gary discusses depression and some new ideas
- A non-therapist does superb work on depression--including her own.
- Press Release: New Method for Depression Often Works When Nothing Else Will
- 30+ years of depression gone in 2 minutes
- EFT saves a life by rapidly resolving suicidal depression
- Depression and confusion about God
- EFT on personal depression--"I was angry at myself"
- Depression Drugs and Migraine Drugs Don't Always Do The Job
- Dr. Patricia Carrington on depression--a detailed discussion, including meds
- Depression, height phobia and claustrophobia eliminated in one session
- Depression related to guilt
- When depression comes from a related issue
- EFT instead of shock treatments?
- From depressed and suicidal ... to ... "I laugh all the time
- Depression on Death Row
- EFT Newcomer eliminates his own deep depression and anxiety disorder
- An intimate look at Depression
- A successful but involved depression case--"I don't want to tell you how well I'm doing"
- EFT resolves 12 years of postnatal depression
- What was REALLY causing Anne's depression?
- EFT student eases his wife's suicidal thoughts
- Louella: Depression, pesticides and low blood sugar
- Surrogate tapping and its effect on depression.
- Persistent EFT by Email on depression, anger and anxiety
- Cross dressing, sexuality and depression
- Long term severe depression gone in ten minutes
- Jaqui Crooks used EFT to overcome her Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)
- Maggie eliminates her own depression
- Panic And Anxiety
- Current "in your face" anxiety and stress case
- EFT makes good progress with panic, agoraphobia and feeling like a failure
- Detective work crucial in relief for panic attacks
- Combining EFT with the Inner Theater approach for panic attacks
- Testing your EFT work: Feeling trapped and panic attacks
- A Quality "How To Do It" Session for Fear and Anxiety
- Diagnosed as a schizophrenic, Gregoire had anxiety, stress and insomnia
- Medical school test anxiety--from C's and D's to A's and B's
- Success story with 10 day anxiety attack
- Sports anxiety, heat sensitivity, being away from home, loneliness, fear of insects.
- 20 year old abduction anxiety calmed with EFT
- Collapsing a client's anxiety from the 9/11 disaster--with 4 year follow-up
- Anxiety and the fear of being alone
- EFT student uses tapping to immediately calm down after a major car accident
- Using EFT for a client who feels out of control.
- One EFT round with Deborah's daughter relieves performance anxiety
- Surgery anxiety and EFT
- EFT helps adult learners overcome school and math anxiety
- EFT on a case of extreme separation anxiety in a dog and the importance of Core Issues for Animals
- Study Shows Simple Drug-Free Acupressure Technique Reduces Dental Anxiety
- Detective work provides help for an anxiety disorder
- Imagination tapping on the finger points reduces stress level to zero
- Newcomer uses EFT to collapse his own panic-attacks and writes letter to "Quackwatch"
- A detailed panic attack case
- Eric Robins, MD and Lisa Cox on surgery anxieties
- Severe anxiety client has his life back
- EFT Newbie resolves her own major trip anxiety
- Panic attacks and heart palpitations subside after doing EFT on dreams
- Anxiety, eating and more
- Success in neutralizing unwanted memories without the client disclosing the content
- One EFT phone session resolves driving test anxiety -- and the benefits expand
- Panic attacks and fear of darkness
- Addressing Generalized Anxiety Disorder by aiming EFT at specific events
- Non-therapist relieves stress in the form of a temper tantrum
- EFT for panic attacks
- Who Would Have Thought That Acupressure Could Relieve Social Anxiety Better Than Drugs or Therapy?
- Daddy left me. Will my new boyfriend leave me too?
- Courtroom anxiety AND anxiety about calling employers
- Daily tapping for Panic Attacks
- Anxiety related to atrial fibrillation is calmed with EFT
- Performance anxiety and many aspects
- EFT brings relief for trauma, anxiety, and an overactive bladder, all in less than an hour
- Test anxiety
- Using EFT for Social Anxiety Disorder
- Surgeon Uses New Acupressure Technique to Lower Surgery Risk
- Overcoming Test Anxiety with New Drug-Free Technique: 80% Success Rate
- Getting to the core of "Mark's" anxiety
- EFT for overeating and panic attacks
- Performance anxiety at a music camp
- Gayla uses EFT for panic
- Travel Anxiety--using the Tell the Story Technique
- Febrile convulsions and related panic attacks subside--not one attack in the two years since she learned to use EFT
- Successful surrogate tapping for surgery anxiety
- Persistence and Panic Attacks - Quality results on a stubborn issue
- Husband relieves wife of major panic attack
- EFT newcomer rids himself of social anxiety
- Relief for another stress related cough
- Using EFT for panic when nobody is around
- New Method for Treating Anxiety Works When Conventional Treatments Fail
- Clearing social anxiety with EFT
- Two surrogate tapping cases: Dental anxiety and severe stomach ache
- Panic Attacks: Getting behind the thought process
- OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder)
- Using EFT for Bereavement
- EFT turns grief into beauty
- EFT eliminates unnecessary grief emotions and softens the grieving process - includes 2 month follow up
- EFT brings healing to a whole family while one woman heals her grief
- Community relief from grief with EFT
- This new Widow was helped in many ways by EFT
- EFT for grief and pet loss
- Tapping through grief leads to incredible insight and relief
- EFT for pain and grief for a birth mother who wasn't allowed to see her child -- a touching story with a happy ending
- Getting to important emotions by doing EFT while looking in the mirror
- An easy grief case with an aspect that showed up later
- Imaginary tapping sends grief away
- EFT setup statements for grief
- Fresh grief and a double benefit.
- Grief changes to smiles
- EFT may be a great relief to grief-stricken nurses who lose patients
- A grief case with many aspects
- Uncontrollable grief resolved with EFT
- Attorney helps client by using EFT for long term unresolved grief
- Relieving grief over the death of Higgins the dog
- When certain music triggers grief and sadness
- Freedom from grief in only 15 minutes
- Addressing relationship and family issues by tapping on photographs
- Tapping into a state of Love
- EFT resolves a 10 year heartbreak
- "I didn't like kissing my wife after she drank coffee."
- Jack improves his relationship with his grandson using surrogate EFT
- Using EFT to prepare for a difficult encounter
- How clearing an intense cough led to improved family relationships--an EFT two-for-one EFT benefit
- MD introduces an innovative idea that brings relief for stubborn relationship issue
- Finding the love you want by healing the inner child
- Relationship Issue: "My husband was being a jerk"
- What holds you back from your lover?
- EFT is instrumental in bringing a couple back together
- Relationships - on "Being Right"
- Instant relationship fix?
- Relationship issue: A humorous approach
- Love, Intuition, Patience and EFT help a schizophrenic 15 year old.
- EFT for Couples
- Combining role playing with EFT for relationships and other issues
- Using EFT for a Broken Heart
- The Healing Power of Forgiveness
- Using EFT on "blocking thoughts" to good relationships
- Surrogate EFT heals a broken heart for a 16 year old boy
- Retired Stanford professor fixes his wife's computer with EFT
- Relationship success after finding core issue
- EFT to heal family relationships
- Taking relationships work to a new level--The Odd Couple
- EFT and meditation for a broken heart
- EFT for love pain
- Shared tapping provides benefits for relationship issues
- EFT Instead of the psych ward after a relationship breaks up
- EFT by telephone smoothes out a tense family reunion
- Insights into picking up another person
- EFT heals a broken heart in rapid time
- Using EFT to improve a relationship
- EFT, One Minute Wonders and Opening to Love
- Using EFT for relationship issues--a detailed case
- Tapping on relationship issues
- Interesting way to use EFT & Tappy Bear for a broken heart
- Relationships, EFT and Spirituality
- Improve relationships by Tapping in the Positive
- How to reduce guilt via an EFT "Tapping Circle" -- keeping privacy for everyone
- The Rolling EFT process
- The "Tapping the System" Technique
- How Guilt and Shame Block the Law of Attraction
- Using EFT for unnecessary guilt - Did EFT get someone's husband to cook dinner?
- Stubborn guilt finally subsides after doing a search on our website and DVDs for ideas
- EFT and infertility
- A bout of cystitis turns out to be a bout of guilt
- Writing a letter
- Reframes (seeing things differently) for guilt, shame and sorrow
- Restless leg syndrome linked to guilt - 20 years of restlessness gone in 2 sessions
- To Physicians: New Discoveries in Acupressure Promise Everything From Alertness to Pain and Stress Management
- A new do-it-yourself approach to acupressure alleviates stress and, in turn neutralizes cold, flu an
- Psychotherapy Dramatically Improved By New 'Acupuncture Without Needles' Technique
- New Acupressure Discovery Reduces Stress 4 Ways: 80% Success Rate
- Many Stressed Women Abandon Healthy Lifestyle Habits: Simple Acupressure Technique Offers a Solution
- Eating Disorders
- Two Year Bulimia Problem Gets Major Assist in One Hour
- A Bulimia "one session wonder"
- Bulimia in Brazil
- "Acceptance Tapping" - A powerful EFT treatment variation for severe compulsive disorders and bulimia.
- Joe resolves his Anorexia...and more
- Love, diligence and an eating disorder
- Michal describes what it is like to be free from an eating disorder
- Anger Management
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Other Emotional Issues
Insights into picking up another person
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A small number of EFTers, like Kevin Soltani, report picking up the energy or symptoms of their clients. Listen in as Kevin tells this important story and what he did about it.
I had a very interesting experience recently, which I think is worth sharing with you, and if you agree, with other EFT practitioners.
Recently, I had a seven year old boy as my client for just one session. His mother brought him over to see me because he was suffering from severe allergy symptoms, including stuffy nose, sneezing, severe itchiness of eyes, etc. Additional background information was that the boy had been diagnosed with autism, a few years previously (right after he’d received a set of vaccinations). For the past few years, he has been going through several different medical procedures.
When he came to see me he was on medications unknown to me, in addition to allergy medications, that didn’t seem to be doing much. According to the mother, the allergy medicine would help to reduce the intensity of the symptoms a little bit for a short time, and even with the medication, he had been unable to go to school for 2 days when I saw him.
Moreover, the mother was very skeptical; she came to see me out of desperation, and appeared to be ready to dismiss this approach of balancing energy, if she didn’t see any immediate results right then and there.
It was not practical to do the tapping on the boy directly. I worked with the mother, having her do surrogate tapping for her son. I was not making any tangible progress and it felt very awkward! I felt a serious blocking of energy from the mother. My guess was that the mother had too many issues around her son’s situation (or maybe other things too) which was making it almost impossible to use her as a channel for surrogate tapping to benefit her son. So, I decided to do surrogate tapping on myself. I used visualization to see myself as that young boy and did a few rounds of tapping. There was no observable progress at the time. We had to end the session, because the mother could not keep her son there any longer.
She did not make another appointment. My understanding is that she didn’t see any obvious results during that session, so she basically dismissed it completely.
My allergy symptoms:
Less than 24 hours after that session, I was working in my backyard, planting some flowers, when I started sneezing, and having runny nose, and irritated eyes. That was the beginning of a very severe set of allergic reactions for a number of days. For the next two weeks, I applied EFT on myself on these allergy symptoms, but didn’t make much progress. I would tap, and the intensity would be reduced a little bit, but it would come back. Since it had started while I was working outdoors with the plants, I was focusing only on allergic response to the outdoors, plants, etc.
I had experienced allergies more than 15 years ago, when living in Houston. After making a number of changes in my lifestyle, I lived an allergy free life for the past 14 years. Last year I experienced mild allergic-like symptoms for only a few days. I applied EFT, as well as the NLP allergy process, and I was fine after that. However, never in the past did the symptoms include this kind of severe itchy eyes.
Finally, after about two weeks of suffering, I decided to have another EFT practitioner, Mary Bonnet, work on me. The night before I went to see her, I was suffering so badly, I woke up around 2 AM and couldn’t sleep for about two hours. During that time, as I was tapping, it dawned on me that every time I experienced severe itchiness in my eyes, the image of that boy would pop up in my mind. I just made a note of it, but didn’t do much with it.
The next day, I went to see Mary and asked her to work on my allergic reactions. In addition to the symptoms, I also mentioned about the image of the young boy related to the severe itchiness of my eyes, which itself was a new experience for me. It was interesting to find out through muscle testing, that I had picked up that boy’s energy pattern. Further muscle testing showed that about 68% of my symptoms were resulted from picking up that boy’s energy, and only the remaining 32% were due to sensitivity to substances in the environment, especially outdoors. Mary helped me through a number of EFT rounds, addressing both the issues of the energy from the young boy, as well as sensitivity to the substances in the outdoors.
About one day after completing that session, around 75% of my symptoms were gone. I continued tapping for the following 2-3 days, at which point, about 90% of the symptoms were gone. There was only some lingering stuffiness in my nose. The fact that most of the symptoms I was experiencing came from picking the energy pattern of that young boy could explain why I was not making much progress the first few days (when I worked on myself focusing only on the symptoms and the sensitivities to substances in the environment).
The other (maybe even more important) part of the story is about the young boy. I hadn’t heard anything from them until recently, when I heard through a common acquaintance that his allergy symptoms were mostly gone about 2 days after that session with me. The mother reportedly has stated that finally the medications worked! Of course, I can’t prove that the EFT work I did during that one session resulted in such drastic change two days after that.
However, as far as I know, the medications would only relieve some symptoms - and only for a short period of time. Moreover, the medications were being used for quite some time without great results. That’s primarily why they came to me out of desperation. Considering that they were very skeptical to begin with and the fact that there was no measurable result during that one session with me, I can certainly understand how they would not give any credit to the EFT work done. Deep down, however, I’m very glad to have helped that boy, whether or not my work gets recognized.
In summary, I found the following observations very interesting and worth sharing with my fellow EFT practitioners:
- As a practitioner, I did pick up my clients energy pattern and it brought with it a set of painful symptoms in to my experience. As practitioners, we should use any of the techniques to protect our energy system when working with different clients, especially when doing surrogate work.
- Reportedly, the observable results of my EFT work came about two days after the session. At least, that is what the evidence suggests to me. My mistake was not to pre-frame this. The unfortunate outcome of this mistake is not so much that EFT and my work didn’t get recognized, but more importantly, that family would not, at least at this point, pursue additional EFT work for their conditions.
- In this particular case, it turned out that it was easier and more effective to have another EFT practitioner work on me, rather than working on myself. I would guess that any EFT practitioner, maybe even at any level, may need to seek another practitioners help for some issue at some point. Let’s not be shy about that!
Have a great day.
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