- Other Emotional Issues
- Anger Management
- Getting over a gang rape--including a follow-up
- EFT alleviates horrendous self-hatred and rage
- Calming down Teddy, an emotionally disturbedboy
- EFT for anger underlying ALS
- Releasing anger at parents allowed healing of ulcerative colitis and headaches
- Suppressed anger expelled via the stomach
- EFT for self righteous anger
- Intuitional work with anger
- A First Class use of Surrogate EFT for Bill's anger and behavior issues
- EFT Transforms "hopping-mad" anger
- An unusual anger release
- Anger in a homeless shelter
- A murderous rage is calmed with EFT
- Josh: Building rapport with children--anger & behavior problems.
- EFT for anger helps both Ann and her angry husband--note the surrogate approach
- Unbearable hatred toward classmates
- Anger and Hostility are Proven to Damage Lungs; Simple Acupressure Technique Offers a Solution
- Anger case history from a client
- EFT for workplace anger
- EFT and severe mental illness--a murderous impulse
- An interesting approach to EFT and road rage
- Using EFT for on-the-spot "hopping mad" anger
- Surrogate EFT for fighting neighbors
- Brandon's Story--anger problem becomes history: (including an update at the end)
- EFT for deep seated anger
- EFT resolves long term resentment
- The EFT Cooling Tower Technique for Letting off Steam
- Anger management approach for a polarity responder
- The cause of our anger isn't always as it appears
- A client talks about her abusive childhood and her relief via EFT
- Resentments relieved 22 years after a poor birthing experience
- Stubborn anger issue falls to 0 with emphatic "say what you feel" wording.
- Road Rage and hives disappear in one session after getting to the core issue
- Press Release: Can a One-Minute Anger Management Technique Reduce Injury Risk and Chronic Illness?
- Releasing anger patterns with EFT
- A client resolves lifelong anger on her own
- Clearing anger and self loathing with EFT via introduction to inner child
- School Counselor on anger and tension,
- Getting behind a successful EFT anger case
- New Technique Helps Avoid Heart Damage by Diffusing Anger Within Marital Arguments
- The client who continually felt resentful
- Employee overcomes anger at supervisor
- Jonas uses EFT for deeper meditation - dangerous PSA reading is now only 0.4
- Using EFT to self-calm an intense anger tantrum
- Useful thoughts on anger by Stewart Robertson
- Football Star Uses New Acupressure Technique to Calm his Road Rage -- No Drugs Needed
- Transgender person with abusive mother relieves rage with EFT
- Anger case--the urge to explode
- Even dropping the kids off at school provides tapping opportunities - an anger issue
- A successful but involved depression case--"I don't want to tell you how well I'm doing"
- EFT resolves 12 years of postnatal depression
- What was REALLY causing Anne's depression?
- EFT student eases his wife's suicidal thoughts
- Louella: Depression, pesticides and low blood sugar
- Surrogate tapping and its effect on depression.
- Persistent EFT by Email on depression, anger and anxiety
- Cross dressing, sexuality and depression
- Long term severe depression gone in ten minutes
- Jaqui Crooks used EFT to overcome her Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)
- Maggie eliminates her own depression
- A textbook depression case--a "one minute wonder" complete with belief changes
- Approaching Depression with the Tearless Trauma Technique
- After 15 years of therapy, including shock therapy, EFT helps release depression
- A case that didn't work--and some suggestions
- A first class look at using EFT for a complex case - depression, guilt, grief and abandonment
- Was it really a manic/depressive disorder?
- Depression with numerous underlying issues
- Major results for anxiety, depression and social issues from one thorough EFT session and consistent EFT "homework"
- Success with a skeptical, depressed scientist - follow up included
- Depression, low self esteem and childhood traumas
- Persistence and a challenging case - Incest, abuse, depression, anxiety attacks, nightmares and flashbacks
- A mis-diagnosed manic/depressive disorder
- Newbie uses EFT on depression, allergic reactions and more
- Hair loss and facial blemishes fade after EFT relieves important emotional issues -- Depression too!
- Adrienne, a physician
- Gary discusses depression and some new ideas
- A non-therapist does superb work on depression--including her own.
- Press Release: New Method for Depression Often Works When Nothing Else Will
- 30+ years of depression gone in 2 minutes
- EFT saves a life by rapidly resolving suicidal depression
- Depression and confusion about God
- EFT on personal depression--"I was angry at myself"
- Depression Drugs and Migraine Drugs Don't Always Do The Job
- Dr. Patricia Carrington on depression--a detailed discussion, including meds
- Depression, height phobia and claustrophobia eliminated in one session
- Depression related to guilt
- When depression comes from a related issue
- EFT instead of shock treatments?
- From depressed and suicidal ... to ... "I laugh all the time
- Depression on Death Row
- EFT Newcomer eliminates his own deep depression and anxiety disorder
- An intimate look at Depression
- Panic And Anxiety
- Getting to the core of "Mark's" anxiety
- Anxiety related to atrial fibrillation is calmed with EFT
- Performance anxiety at a music camp
- EFT brings relief for trauma, anxiety, and an overactive bladder, all in less than an hour
- Test anxiety
- Using EFT for Social Anxiety Disorder
- Successful surrogate tapping for surgery anxiety
- Overcoming Test Anxiety with New Drug-Free Technique: 80% Success Rate
- Husband relieves wife of major panic attack
- EFT for overeating and panic attacks
- Relief for another stress related cough
- Gayla uses EFT for panic
- Travel Anxiety--using the Tell the Story Technique
- Febrile convulsions and related panic attacks subside--not one attack in the two years since she learned to use EFT
- Two surrogate tapping cases: Dental anxiety and severe stomach ache
- Persistence and Panic Attacks - Quality results on a stubborn issue
- Current "in your face" anxiety and stress case
- EFT newcomer rids himself of social anxiety
- Detective work crucial in relief for panic attacks
- Using EFT for panic when nobody is around
- New Method for Treating Anxiety Works When Conventional Treatments Fail
- Clearing social anxiety with EFT
- A Quality "How To Do It" Session for Fear and Anxiety
- Panic Attacks: Getting behind the thought process
- Medical school test anxiety--from C's and D's to A's and B's
- EFT makes good progress with panic, agoraphobia and feeling like a failure
- Sports anxiety, heat sensitivity, being away from home, loneliness, fear of insects.
- Combining EFT with the Inner Theater approach for panic attacks
- Testing your EFT work: Feeling trapped and panic attacks
- Anxiety and the fear of being alone
- Diagnosed as a schizophrenic, Gregoire had anxiety, stress and insomnia
- Using EFT for a client who feels out of control.
- Success story with 10 day anxiety attack
- Stress related cough cured
- 20 year old abduction anxiety calmed with EFT
- EFT on a case of extreme separation anxiety in a dog and the importance of Core Issues for Animals
- Collapsing a client's anxiety from the 9/11 disaster--with 4 year follow-up
- Detective work provides help for an anxiety disorder
- EFT student uses tapping to immediately calm down after a major car accident
- Newcomer uses EFT to collapse his own panic-attacks and writes letter to "Quackwatch"
- One EFT round with Deborah's daughter relieves performance anxiety
- Surgery anxiety and EFT
- EFT helps adult learners overcome school and math anxiety
- EFT Newbie resolves her own major trip anxiety
- Study Shows Simple Drug-Free Acupressure Technique Reduces Dental Anxiety
- Anxiety, eating and more
- Imagination tapping on the finger points reduces stress level to zero
- Success in neutralizing unwanted memories without the client disclosing the content
- Panic attacks and fear of darkness
- A detailed panic attack case
- Eric Robins, MD and Lisa Cox on surgery anxieties
- Severe anxiety client has his life back
- Who Would Have Thought That Acupressure Could Relieve Social Anxiety Better Than Drugs or Therapy?
- Panic attacks and heart palpitations subside after doing EFT on dreams
- Courtroom anxiety AND anxiety about calling employers
- Daily tapping for Panic Attacks
- One EFT phone session resolves driving test anxiety -- and the benefits expand
- Performance anxiety and many aspects
- Addressing Generalized Anxiety Disorder by aiming EFT at specific events
- Non-therapist relieves stress in the form of a temper tantrum
- EFT for panic attacks
- Surgeon Uses New Acupressure Technique to Lower Surgery Risk
- Daddy left me. Will my new boyfriend leave me too?
- OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder)
- Fresh grief and a double benefit.
- Grief changes to smiles
- EFT may be a great relief to grief-stricken nurses who lose patients
- A grief case with many aspects
- Uncontrollable grief resolved with EFT
- Attorney helps client by using EFT for long term unresolved grief
- Relieving grief over the death of Higgins the dog
- When certain music triggers grief and sadness
- Freedom from grief in only 15 minutes
- Using EFT for Bereavement
- EFT turns grief into beauty
- EFT eliminates unnecessary grief emotions and softens the grieving process - includes 2 month follow up
- EFT brings healing to a whole family while one woman heals her grief
- Community relief from grief with EFT
- This new Widow was helped in many ways by EFT
- EFT for grief and pet loss
- Getting to important emotions by doing EFT while looking in the mirror
- Tapping through grief leads to incredible insight and relief
- EFT for pain and grief for a birth mother who wasn't allowed to see her child -- a touching story with a happy ending
- An easy grief case with an aspect that showed up later
- Imaginary tapping sends grief away
- EFT setup statements for grief
- Shared tapping provides benefits for relationship issues
- EFT Instead of the psych ward after a relationship breaks up
- Taking relationships work to a new level--The Odd Couple
- EFT and meditation for a broken heart
- EFT for love pain
- Using EFT to improve a relationship
- EFT, One Minute Wonders and Opening to Love
- EFT by telephone smoothes out a tense family reunion
- Insights into picking up another person
- EFT heals a broken heart in rapid time
- Relationships, EFT and Spirituality
- Improve relationships by Tapping in the Positive
- Using EFT for relationship issues--a detailed case
- Tapping on relationship issues
- Interesting way to use EFT & Tappy Bear for a broken heart
- "I didn't like kissing my wife after she drank coffee."
- Jack improves his relationship with his grandson using surrogate EFT
- Addressing relationship and family issues by tapping on photographs
- Tapping into a state of Love
- EFT resolves a 10 year heartbreak
- Relationship Issue: "My husband was being a jerk"
- Using EFT to prepare for a difficult encounter
- How clearing an intense cough led to improved family relationships--an EFT two-for-one EFT benefit
- MD introduces an innovative idea that brings relief for stubborn relationship issue
- Finding the love you want by healing the inner child
- Relationships - on "Being Right"
- Instant relationship fix?
- Relationship issue: A humorous approach
- What holds you back from your lover?
- EFT is instrumental in bringing a couple back together
- Using EFT for a Broken Heart
- The Healing Power of Forgiveness
- Love, Intuition, Patience and EFT help a schizophrenic 15 year old.
- EFT for Couples
- Combining role playing with EFT for relationships and other issues
- Relationship success after finding core issue
- EFT to heal family relationships
- Using EFT on "blocking thoughts" to good relationships
- Surrogate EFT heals a broken heart for a 16 year old boy
- Retired Stanford professor fixes his wife's computer with EFT
- Writing a letter
- Reframes (seeing things differently) for guilt, shame and sorrow
- Restless leg syndrome linked to guilt - 20 years of restlessness gone in 2 sessions
- How to reduce guilt via an EFT "Tapping Circle" -- keeping privacy for everyone
- The "Tapping the System" Technique
- The Rolling EFT process
- Using EFT for unnecessary guilt - Did EFT get someone's husband to cook dinner?
- How Guilt and Shame Block the Law of Attraction
- Stubborn guilt finally subsides after doing a search on our website and DVDs for ideas
- EFT and infertility
- A bout of cystitis turns out to be a bout of guilt
- Psychotherapy Dramatically Improved By New 'Acupuncture Without Needles' Technique
- New Acupressure Discovery Reduces Stress 4 Ways: 80% Success Rate
- Many Stressed Women Abandon Healthy Lifestyle Habits: Simple Acupressure Technique Offers a Solution
- To Physicians: New Discoveries in Acupressure Promise Everything From Alertness to Pain and Stress Management
- A new do-it-yourself approach to acupressure alleviates stress and, in turn neutralizes cold, flu an
- Eating Disorders
- Two Year Bulimia Problem Gets Major Assist in One Hour
- A Bulimia "one session wonder"
- Bulimia in Brazil
- "Acceptance Tapping" - A powerful EFT treatment variation for severe compulsive disorders and bulimia.
- Joe resolves his Anorexia...and more
- Love, diligence and an eating disorder
- Michal describes what it is like to be free from an eating disorder
- Anger Management
Other Emotional Issues
Dr. Patricia Carrington on depression--a detailed discussion, including meds
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Dr. Patricia Carrington has a wealth of expertise and experience to share. She is a treasure chest of ideas, warmth & wisdom and, as you will see in her detailed message below, she has substantial experience with depression. She details her thoughts about different types of depression, the unique challenges they present and how best to handle them. While she uses EFT in most cases, she also provides thoughts on how one might work with the really difficult cases that require medication.
A big thank you to Pat for taking the time to so eloquently display her thoughts. Its content may not be of interest to everyone on this list but, to many, it falls in the print-it-out-and-keep-it category.
Since you called for input on EFT and depression, I've been giving thought to my own experience using it with depressed clients. At the present time about 90% of my clients use EFT during a portion of practically every one of their therapy sessions. Although I never articulated this before, I think I now see a pattern in their reaction to EFT in those clients who have been depressed.
By far the most EFT-responsive depressions I've worked with have been what are (or used to be) called Reactive Depressions (to those who are interested, I don't use the present DSM IV categories for depression except for filling out insurance forms -- I find them quite meaningless for purposes of therapy). The reactive depressions are those which are precipitated by a specific event or series of events in a person's life, and which usually occur in a person who wasn't depressed just before the event -- they are exactly what the name implies -- REACTIONS to something. The "something" is usually a loss or the threat of one. It can be the loss of a person, or of a career, or of money, or security, or a limb, or the threat of dangerous illness to a family member, or loss of one's youth, or even of one's future. The precipitating event triggers a form of mourning for the lost object or person or life circumstance and the result is a feeling of sadness and hopelessness.
This is the kind of depression that in my experience often lends itself remarkably well to EFT treatment. It is eminently tappable because it has identifiable boundaries, it's not vague or generalized, and there are plenty of specifics to tap on. True, some people may not initially be consciously able to identify just what their painful loss or separation was, although I find that most clients I encounter with this problem do know what the event was and can tell me about it with little prompting. For others it may be that it isn't until I've delved a bit into their life to find out when this all started and what may have occurred around the time the event happened, or what disturbing thing they may have been anticipating at that time, that the cause of their deep inner sadness can be unearthed. Such people may not be able to tell me the precipitating cause at first, particularly if it was an "anniversary" of some unpleasant or painful event that brought on the depression -- anniversaries are scrupulously observed by the mini-calculators in our brains even if we don't consciously "remember" them, and they can be big trouble makers.
Another reason a person may not identify the event right away is that they may be downplaying in their mind the real impact of the thing that is bothering them -- maybe a former spouse remarried three months ago when the depression started and they didn't think it bothered them at the time (but it did!), or maybe their youngest child went off to college leaving a vacant house and it all seemed fine to them (but it wasn't!), etc. I find that these precipitating events seem to come to the surface and identify themselves naturally and often very quickly as we tap on their feelings of sadness, or emptiness, or discouragement, or self-blame --or whatever may be coming up for them. It's as though the real reason wanted "out", that it was just waiting to be seen and dealt with. Of course once it is out in the open then we can go to town with EFT by tapping for the SPECIFIC issues and those issues can often be handled remarkably quickly and with them goes the depression. Voila!!
This isn't always that simple though, as we all know. Underneath the loss that started the depression may lie a series of other losses and separations which are hidden in the dim recesses of the past, some are the very early and extremely painful losses which can occur in infancy before the child even had words to put to it. If these have been reactivated by the more recent loss then they are the driving forces behind the depression and we have the familiar network of often multiple aspects to trace through tapping. Sometimes I'll have to help a client do this laboriously and it takes great patience, but the payoff can be tremendous. Sometimes though it goes far faster than I had expected. More often than not there are some core issues to be addressed and the depression that brought the client to my office may just have been the more obvious problem, the "SOS flag" so to speak, that has motivated this person to come for help. Once the help (the therapy) is there, then the deeper meaning of it all can be addressed. To this I say -- great! I've often found that this process is even more important than clearing away the depression symptoms themselves -- now a person's whole life is being turned around, a new perspective is being born, light is flooding an existence that may formerly have been dull or lifeless -- warmth is there in place of coldness and numbness. That, of course, is the real meaning of what we do.
I could give a whole bunch of examples of how EFT has acted as a life-saver to people I've treated who had all but given up in their lives and resigned themselves to a less than-alive existence -- which is what depression is. But others are doing that on this list so well in their reports about the joy of helping another lift their depression that I won't waste time here on more of these wonderfully inspiring stories.
Instead I'd like to say something about the other depressions that we see, the so-called "endogenous" ones which are thought to somehow be inwardly caused because we don't know what really causes them. These are the depressions that often have their roots in the deepest layers of a personality because they are so ingrained, their origins so early in the person's life, and usually they are dim and vague. These depressions have a heaviness about them that makes trying to deal with them by using EFT or by any other means often a test of endurance for the therapist who, time and time again, may bring the person to a place of lightness and feel the weight lift from them, -- sometimes after they have tapped their way through a whole series of aspects to what seems to be a wonderful result -- only to find that at their next appointment the person comes to their session almost as though they had been collapsed and their gains seem to have been swept away. It's like watching a child build sand castles by the sea -- so much painstaking work and attention goes into those turrets and the moats and the towers and the little stick drawbridges, the castle seems really to be getting there! -- and then the waves crash onto the beach and swish it all away, and all that's left is mush and a few wet mounds of sand.
When this happens to a client of mine I keep trying. I really work with them. I use EFT with all my encouragement and ingenuity and I use every other technique I think might help. I feel hopeful then discouraged in turn. I often have to tap on myself after they leave the office to keep my spirits up and to ensure my support of them. But when it happens over, and over, and over again, then I'll finally get the message. What we are building is being undermined as fast as we create it! The client may be trying, as I am, to beat this game but it's like trying to hold back an avalanche, a force that's so huge we can't get ahead of it, it's pulling them back down each time so that what we're constructing so carefully simply doesn't hold.
GC COMMENT: Although Pat mentions it below, I would like to emphasize that allergens, energy toxicity and the like can be very important contributors to an otherwise "unbudgeable" state of depression. I have seen several cases where the mere removal of certain items from the diet makes major inroads into, if not completely clears, the depression. When the depression keeps "coming back" I always suspicion that the true cause is an irritant to the system which, typically, is part of their ongoing diet. When this is the case, the "coming back" is simply the newest reaction to some irritating substance.
PAT CONTINUES: It's at that point, after exhausting all avenues -- including, if the client cooperates, with a referral to full allergy and sensitivity testing and treatment by a trained energy allergy-therapist -- that I find myself deeply grateful for the fact that I still have hope of succeeding by getting temporary assistance through referring the patient to a specialist for psychiatric medication to be used ALONG WITH the therapy and the EFT. Saying this may sound like heresy to those who use the amazing alternative and complementary therapies that we know work so well, and which I myself use in all cases WHERE THEY WORK, but there is an important function that the so-called psychotropic medications for depressions can fill, at least in this point in history, something nothing else can quite do in certain cases. The Prozacs and Zolofts and Paxils, or even on occasion their more forbidding relatives such as the MAO Inhibitors, Lithium and the like, are powerful drugs and like anything of power they can be dangerously misused. BUT -- and this is an important "but" -- they can also, on occasion, make it possible to continue to treat and ultimately to "save" a person whom we might otherwise have had to give up on.
An example is my client "Maria" who is a gifted teacher. She has been working with me for three years now to overcome deep-seated personality problems, including a strong tendency to depression and frequent helpless crying spells. These stem. at least in part, from an early childhood separation from and partial rejection by a mentally ill, frequently hospitalized mother who had been at least able to give her daughter some love when she was an infant, but little afterwards. Maria is highly intelligent and strongly motivated to overcome her feelings of irrational helplessness and threat and is truly rewarding to work with. However, we discovered early on in her treatment that although she would often make excellent progress, even dealing with core issues that were central to her life with the help of EFT which she uses skillfully (at home, too) we were still unable to stem the tide of the depression. The despair and fear were just too much for her and they could completely undermine our work. And so it became necessary for her to have the assistance of medication which she could use while we were tapping on these problems in therapy, with the aim of phasing out the medicine as soon as she would build up her inner strength.
Through the use of Prozac (yes -- the "terrible" word!) on a regular basis, Maria and I have been able to do transformational work together. With the help of EFT she has been able to explore the deepest issues, some of them so early in origin as to be wordless, and to one by one resolve them. And, with the support to our work that she has obtained from the medication -- which didn't in itself solve her problems but did enable her to work on them diligently in therapy -- she has rebuilt a "self", has restructured her relationships to people and the world, and recently she has in fact been able to drastically reduce the medication and periodically to stop taking it altogether. Right now she is once again voluntarily taken herself off of all medication and is doing remarkably well in an exciting new phase of her treatment.
The point I want to make though is that without the help of the drug we couldn't have done it, and similarly, if she had had the drug alone without the therapy and the remarkable help of EFT, she would not have healed -- at best the drug would have held her in a holding pattern. She could probably have functioned and continued with her teaching and family without collapsing by taking it, but her real life, her real "self", would never have emerged. So this has not been an "all or nothing" thing, not a matter of drugs or EFT as though these two things were opposed to each other, but it's been what I suppose might be called "medication-assisted EFT", the two modalities working in concert with each other.
I want to add that in the majority of cases where it has been necessary to use medication along with therapy and EFT, the clients involved have usually voluntarily sought to wean themselves of the drug at the first opportunity. Most people simply don't want to stay dependent on a substance such as medication if they can possibly help it. Sometimes these people have even gone off the drug too soon, and unmanageable emotions have surfaced which even persistent use of EFT and therapy have not been able to handle rapidly enough, and they have had to return to taking the medication, usually at a reduced dosage though, until such time as they had worked through the other issues that had been waiting in the wings. I have found that even this first effort at leaving the medication though, while it may not always succeed, is usually a very positive indication when it occurs. Almost always those who try it, even if they may at first have to resume taking the medication, do eventually, with persistence and further work, manage to finally successfully get off it. The need for it is gone then because the underlying damage has been repaired, the deeper wounds have been healed and the cause, not just the symptoms, has been removed.
I must admit though that I have experienced an occasional client with depression who has continued to progress in their therapy by using EFT in a creative fashion but who has nevertheless been unable to do without their medication, no matter how hard they tried to stop it. When this happens I don't look upon it as a failure. If God chooses to heal this person by several means at once, who am I to quibble? If what I see in the therapy is an inner strengthening of the person, a deepening of a sense of peace and happiness in their lives, then I think " so be it", and we go on from there.
The fact is that certain people may even have to stay on a psychiatric medication for the rest of their lives, just the way some diabetics have to stay on insulin in order to live. These drugs can save lives when they are truly necessary, if, that is, they are sensitively and expertly prescribed -- it's simply where we are now in history. Some day they will be obsolete, things of the past, but at this point in history there are some problems we haven't yet solved, some mysteries still unexplained. I find that the best thing I can do for my clients, when this happens, is to recognize this as a fact and "deeply and completely" accept these people just as they are. That in itself may be one of the best healings of all.
With good wishes to all,
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