Other Emotional Issues

Grief

An easy grief case with an aspect that showed up later

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Hi Everyone,

Jasmine Bharathan from India gives us the details of using EFT for a simple resolution of grief.  Please note in the ensuing correspondence with her client (Vijaya) how a related aspect came up later (an anger issue related to her deceased father).

An inexperienced EFT'er might conclude in this case that EFT "didn't work" or that it "didn't hold."  Neither of these is correct.  What happened was that another aspect showed up that wasn't present during the original session.  As you will see, it was easily handled.

Hugs, Gary


By Jasmine Bharathan, EFT- ADV

Hi Gary,

This is a rather straight forward application of EFT in one of my recent workshops, but showed powerfully effective healing of some grave issues. To see the sweet smile on her face at the end of the workshop was the best gift anyone could receive for being in this profession..!

Vijaya had been grieving for her father past 3 years, still unable to deal with the loss..

"I miss his physical presence..."

"I am angry that he left me..."

"I want to be able to look at his photo without feeling sad.."

"I cannot think of him without feeling sad.."

"I really want to be free of this grief.. I have tried everything but I still cannot get over this.."

In addition, she had developed an unhealthy craving for chocolate.

A straight forward tapping first for

"Even though I feel sad about my father's death..."

She came to a zero in 1 round of tapping..

When she tried to visualize her father with eyes closed, the sadness came up again..

"Even though I am feeling sad when I look at my father..."

She came to a zero in 2 rounds of tapping.

There was no more sadness or grief that she could feel at that point. So we decided that she would go home and attempt to look at her father's photo and telephone me if she felt uncomfortable doing so.

During lunch break, we got a couple of chocolate bars to tap through the chocolate craving. The intensity to eat the chocolate went from high to low as she tapped...

"Even though I want to eat this chocolate.."

"Even though I crave the NICE FEELING AFTER EATING the chocolate....."

Bingo... She came down to a zero.. and did not want to eat it.. at all..!

As a follow through, enclosed are parts of her emails to my support group..


Hi Friends,

I am Vijaya. I did the EFT Level 1 course on 29th Jan with

Jasmine. I had been eagerly waiting for this course and when it happened, I was excited. What I hadn't anticipated was how quickly my grief and chocolate addiction of 3 years would vanish! Jasmine was great at fishing out the exact cause of my cravings and in a few minutes it was gone. I still don't get the cravings anymore. After the seminar ended and I went home, one of the first things I did was look at my father's photograph. I could actually look at the photo without beginning to feel sad and cry. I no longer think of my father and feel sad.

I was in for another surprise. I found myself lighter that evening and still feel so. I am sure I lost weight during the workshop. Since that day I have used EFT to cure my insomnia. It took me two rounds of EFT. Now I sleep well.

Thanks for reading my long post. Have a great evening!

Best regards,

Vijaya


Hi Jasmine,

Few days ago I dreamt that my father was home and we were having a family re-union. In the dream I was so very happy, it is impossible to express in words. This theme has repeated in my dreams very often in the past. Perhaps it is my subconscious expressing it's deep desire thru the dream

I woke up feeling happy whereas in the past I'd always cry and be sad during the day. The only feeling I experienced was that I missed my dad, but it was not as strong as in the past (before I did EFT. So I didn't do EFT. Then yesterday, I had an argument with my mom and I talked about how my dad could have dealt with the same situation had he been there. Surprisingly I cried. As I let the tears flow I found that I was feeling angry that he left me. Well, this time I immediately did EFT for both the anger and the remaining sadness and felt great. Now I feel free and happy.

Love n hugs,

Vijaya

 

 

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