Other Emotional Issues

Grief

EFT may be a great relief to grief-stricken nurses who lose patients

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Hi Everyone,

Here's what Nancy Rabbitt says after a successful EFT session for her client's grief, "She could carry on with forgiveness and acceptance of the loss and think of the incident with no distress. She could go back to work nursing without carrying that burden of grief with her. And at the end of the day, with a feeling of peace and gratitude she could go home and hug her son."

Hugs, Gary


By Nancy Rabbitt

I find grief work very rewarding, in part because it is something most of us have experienced. Grief can be such an intense, relentless, debilitating emotional pain that it is natural for us to want to help. EFT gives us that means.

One of my clients is a nurse who works in intensive care. She was very distraught, depressed and losing sleep because of the death of a patient she had nursed through the night. At work the next day she learned he died during the morning shift.

She took it very hard since the patient was a young man about her own son's age (17) who had been in a vehicle accident. Obviously she identified with him and his family's loss. She had struggled mightily to keep him alive during the night when his blood pressure plummeted a couple of times. We tapped a number of rounds. Some of the set-up phrases were:

Even though I know that I did all that I could to keep this patient alive, this patient died, I am not to blame...

Even though it hurts my heart terribly to know what his family must be going through, I will keep them in my thoughts and prayers ...

Note: I know this client and I thought she would gain comfort from introducing the idea of prayer into the session though we did not actually pray. This is not something I usually do but in this case I had a strong feeling that it would make a difference to her, be very comforting, and be very well received ... and it was.

I also introduce the truth that we do not have power over life and death, it is not ultimately in our hands or under our total control. I believe that forgiveness and acceptance are key to being at peace and healing.

There were a number of aspects to the event: her feeling of helplessness despite her expertise and effort, her identification with the young man her son's age, imagining feeling what a mother might feel, and the tragedy of the senselessness and violent loss of someone only 17. (The young man had been injured in an after-party drinking and driving accident following graduation.)

Tapping on all the aspects did not take that long and intuition guided me in framing the set-ups. Finally, her whole body relaxed and she let out a HUGE sigh and that cleared it for her. Her intensity had gone from a 10 on a scale of 0 to 10 (it would have been higher if possible) at the beginning down to a 4 midway and finally to a zero.

She could carry on with forgiveness and acceptance of the loss and think of the incident with no distress. She could go back to work nursing without carrying that burden of grief with her. And at the end of the day, with a feeling of peace and gratitude she could go home and hug her son.

Nancy Rabbitt

 

 

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