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20 year old abduction anxiety calmed with EFT

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Hi Everyone,

Caren Bestbier from South Africa helps friend through a difficult anxiety issue and says, "About 2 months later she told me about the surprising results that she attributed to our 3 rounds of tapping. She said that she no longer experiences the same anxiety when her 21 year old daughter goes out at night. She even falls asleep, instead of waiting up anxiously until she gets home."

Hugs, Gary


By Caren Bestbier

Dear Gary,

I would like to tell you about the surprising benefits that my friend Alessandra received from 3 simple rounds of EFT. I was busy working through your training DVDs and was excited to share what I was learning with her.

I explained to her some of the basics and then offered to show her how it worked. I asked her if there was anything in her life that she would like to feel better about. Her intensity rose immediately as she told me about an incident that had occurred 20 years before. The six year old daughter of one of her friends had been abducted, raped and murdered. Her own two daughters were about the same age as this child. As her intensity was very high, I immediately tapped with her:

Even though I have all this anxiety when I think of what happened to this child...

She stopped and said that she couldn't say "love and accept myself", so I suggested she say "I deeply and completely accept the way that I feel". This she could say. We tapped one round for "this anxiety", "this anxiety about what happened", using the EFT points. At the end of the round she sighed and I could see that her intensity had dropped a lot. I asked how she felt, and she said that she had felt the sensation of energy shifting in her head. I asked how her anxiety was, and she held her throat and said that it was now in her throat, that it was very tight. We tapped another round for:

Even though I have this tightness in my throat...

At the end of this round, she visibly relaxed even further. I asked how she felt, and she said that the feeling of tightness was gone, but that she now felt a deep sense of guilt. We then tapped for:

Even though I have this guilt about what happened to this child...
Even though I feel guilty that I couldn't do anything to help her...
Even though I feel guilty that my children were all right...

At the end of the round she breathed deeply and said that she just wanted to go and sleep. I asked about the anxiety, and she said she didn't feel it anymore.

This story from my friend (a devoted mother of 4), helped me to understand one of the reasons why she has always experienced a very high level of anxiety when she does not know where her children are. I pointed out this connection to her, and told her that it might be beneficial for us to tap for her around some more specific aspects to do with what happened and how it affected her and her children. It was clear however that she had done enough tapping for the day, so we left it there.

About 2 months later she told me about the surprising results that she attributed to our 3 rounds of tapping. She said that she no longer experiences the same anxiety when her 21 year old daughter goes out at night. She even falls asleep, instead of waiting up anxiously until she gets home. She has also stopped insisting that her 17 year old son call or message her when he goes anywhere without her. She tells me that she has experienced a very real shift in focus, as she is able to focus on watching television or reading while her daughter is out, whereas in the past her whole focus would be on her cell phone, waiting for a call or a message.

There is another remarkable side effect of our tapping. Although she does not actually tap for herself, if she starts to feel any anxiety about her children she claims that she immediately closes her eyes and "puts herself back" on my kitchen stool, feeling it under her, and remembers and re-experiences the sensations that she had while we were tapping that day. She feels the tightness in her throat, and the sensation of it releasing, and then she immediately feels calmer.

GC COMMENT: Nice work! It might also be useful to get more specific on the abduction event and dig even deeper for previous events that may underlie it. Doing so might help her remaining anxiety episodes.

This is another example of how tapping on a core issue can effect dramatic change, even with 3 short rounds!

Thank you Gary for this wonderful technique and your magnificent spirit!

Caren Bestbier

 

 

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