Anger Management

Resentments relieved 22 years after a poor birthing experience

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Hi Everyone,

Here is a classic example of how skillfully applied EFT can rapidly unload agitations and resentments that have been carried around for decades. How many of us have shouldered these weights without knowing it? Thanks to Patzia Gonzales-Baz from Mexico for sharing her thoughts with an actual case.

Hugs, Gary


By Patzia Gonzalez-Baz

Hi Gary:

When "Connie" came for her session, she had just read an article on your newsletter about a difficult labor (Severe labor pains, giving birth at home) and was all agitated.

She too had wanted to have a homebirth when her eldest son was born 22 years ago and ended up with a caesarean. She "was over it" but had been disappointed and wished she had known EFT back then so she could have had a homebirth, like the woman in the article.

I asked her to tell me the story about that delivery, and to stop as soon as she felt any intensity. It was actually two stories: 1) The doctor and the due date; and 2) The caesarean.

We started with the first one. Connie had been seeing a Naturopathic doctor who would deliver the baby, and had agreed to a home birth. Connie had very irregular cycles and she and the doctor had not agreed on the date of conception or on the due date. The doctor insisted that a woman could not know when she had conceived, they had to set the date with a chart starting with her last period. Connie insisted she knew exactly when she had gotten pregnant, and the dates didn't coincide with what the doctor said.

Connie found out she was NOT over it! And had an intensity of 10!

Even though the bleeping doctor discounted my intuition about the baby's due date…

Even though I'm angry at that bleeping doctor for insisting he knew better than I did when I had gotten pregnant…

Even though I had to be nice and submissive because he was in authority…

Even though I would like to swak him one for being so insensitive and not believing me…

Even though he said it was impossible to know when I had gotten pregnant, and I did know…

We did several rounds of tapping until her intensity dropped to 0 on a scale of 0 to 10. Connie had a very happy, uneventful pregnancy. She was blissful and could remember thinking that pregnancy was the best state ever.

Her doctor kept insisting on the "official" due date, and she kept insisting that it would really be two weeks later, because she really did know when she had gotten pregnant. So it was a terrible surprise when her doctor called one evening and told her he was leaving on vacation three days later. In his mind, she was overdue, and he had scheduled his vacations because none of his patients had delivery dates for the next two weeks. If she didn't have the baby in the next three days, she would have to look for another doctor to deliver her.

Even if I was frozen and couldn't process what he was saying.

Even if I still can't believe he would do that to me.

Even if I was scared out of my wits.

She went into labor right then and there, and her husband called the doctor back to let him know.

Even though I started having contractions out of fear…

Even though I was terrified of the doctor's leaving on vacation and having to find a new doctor…

Even though I was afraid of doing it all on my own…

The doctor said to call him again when contractions were 2 minutes apart; but her contractions stayed erratic.

Even though I had erratic contractions and was scared of the doctor's going on vacation…

Even though I felt I had to be "good" and have this baby so he (the doctor) wouldn't abandon me…

After 24 hours of irregular contractions and no dilation, the doctor suggested inducing labor.

Even though I knew I had to birth this baby before the doctor left, and time was running out…

Even though I wanted a home birth and was being sent to the hospital for an induction…

Connie remembers walking up and down the corridor with the IV, and still no dilation. She was then told that her baby was having fetal distress and she needed a caesarean.

Even though I was afraid my baby would die because of the fetal distress…

Even though I was scared in the operating room…

Even though I was angry because they tied my hands down and I couldn't move them…

Even though I felt betrayed by my body because it hadn't dilated…

Even though I felt inadequate as a woman, because I couldn't birth my baby normally…

And then, the baby was born; they untied her hands and let her hold him and see that he was beautiful and perfect!

Even though I didn't have a homebirth, I was so happy to have a healthy, normal baby…

Connie told me she felt like a weight had lifted from her shoulders. She had avoided talking about the subject of her son's birth, or would make jokes. We can't change what happened; she told me that a year later the doctor had apologized and had acknowledged that many women do truly know when they got pregnant. He now pays more attention to what women tell him. She could talk about the doctor with no emotional intensity.

Thanks Gary,

Patzia Gonzalez-Baz

 

 

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