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- Getting behind a successful EFT anger case
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- Adrienne, a physician
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- Press Release: New Method for Depression Often Works When Nothing Else Will
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- When depression comes from a related issue
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- Dr. Patricia Carrington on depression--a detailed discussion, including meds
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- Depression on Death Row
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- An intimate look at Depression
- Panic And Anxiety
- Getting to the core of "Mark's" anxiety
- EFT for overeating and panic attacks
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- Gayla uses EFT for panic
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- Two surrogate tapping cases: Dental anxiety and severe stomach ache
- Panic Attacks: Getting behind the thought process
- Current "in your face" anxiety and stress case
- EFT makes good progress with panic, agoraphobia and feeling like a failure
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- 20 year old abduction anxiety calmed with EFT
- Collapsing a client's anxiety from the 9/11 disaster--with 4 year follow-up
- Anxiety and the fear of being alone
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- Using EFT for a client who feels out of control.
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- Anxiety, eating and more
- Success in neutralizing unwanted memories without the client disclosing the content
- Newcomer uses EFT to collapse his own panic-attacks and writes letter to "Quackwatch"
- A detailed panic attack case
- Eric Robins, MD and Lisa Cox on surgery anxieties
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- Panic attacks and fear of darkness
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- Non-therapist relieves stress in the form of a temper tantrum
- EFT for panic attacks
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- Daily tapping for Panic Attacks
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- Performance anxiety and many aspects
- EFT brings relief for trauma, anxiety, and an overactive bladder, all in less than an hour
- Test anxiety
- Using EFT for Social Anxiety Disorder
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- Overcoming Test Anxiety with New Drug-Free Technique: 80% Success Rate
- OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder)
- A grief case with many aspects
- Uncontrollable grief resolved with EFT
- Attorney helps client by using EFT for long term unresolved grief
- Relieving grief over the death of Higgins the dog
- When certain music triggers grief and sadness
- Freedom from grief in only 15 minutes
- Using EFT for Bereavement
- EFT turns grief into beauty
- EFT eliminates unnecessary grief emotions and softens the grieving process - includes 2 month follow up
- EFT brings healing to a whole family while one woman heals her grief
- Community relief from grief with EFT
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- EFT for grief and pet loss
- Getting to important emotions by doing EFT while looking in the mirror
- Tapping through grief leads to incredible insight and relief
- EFT for pain and grief for a birth mother who wasn't allowed to see her child -- a touching story with a happy ending
- An easy grief case with an aspect that showed up later
- Imaginary tapping sends grief away
- EFT setup statements for grief
- Fresh grief and a double benefit.
- Grief changes to smiles
- EFT may be a great relief to grief-stricken nurses who lose patients
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- EFT heals a broken heart in rapid time
- Relationships, EFT and Spirituality
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- Tapping on relationship issues
- Interesting way to use EFT & Tappy Bear for a broken heart
- "I didn't like kissing my wife after she drank coffee."
- Jack improves his relationship with his grandson using surrogate EFT
- Addressing relationship and family issues by tapping on photographs
- Tapping into a state of Love
- EFT resolves a 10 year heartbreak
- MD introduces an innovative idea that brings relief for stubborn relationship issue
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- Relationship Issue: "My husband was being a jerk"
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- How clearing an intense cough led to improved family relationships--an EFT two-for-one EFT benefit
- Relationships - on "Being Right"
- Instant relationship fix?
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- What holds you back from your lover?
- EFT is instrumental in bringing a couple back together
- Using EFT for a Broken Heart
- The Healing Power of Forgiveness
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- EFT for Couples
- Combining role playing with EFT for relationships and other issues
- Relationship success after finding core issue
- EFT to heal family relationships
- Using EFT on "blocking thoughts" to good relationships
- Surrogate EFT heals a broken heart for a 16 year old boy
- Retired Stanford professor fixes his wife's computer with EFT
- Shared tapping provides benefits for relationship issues
- EFT Instead of the psych ward after a relationship breaks up
- Taking relationships work to a new level--The Odd Couple
- EFT and meditation for a broken heart
- EFT for love pain
- Reframes (seeing things differently) for guilt, shame and sorrow
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- How to reduce guilt via an EFT "Tapping Circle" -- keeping privacy for everyone
- The "Tapping the System" Technique
- The Rolling EFT process
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- Eating Disorders
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- Anger Management
Releasing anger patterns with EFT
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Rod Sherwin from Australia gives us some specific procedures for dealing with anger. He says, "Here I present a longer EFT script that I hope will help you - as it did me - to change your anger pattern."
We all have a pattern of anger. Some of us express it when it is still small. Some of us suppress it deep inside fighting to maintain control of it, too scared to express it, and instead we experience it as disease. And some of us - me included - bottle it up until it bursts out like a volcano surprising everyone around us with because we had not even given a hint that anything was wrong.
I'm going to focus on the last pattern as this is one that I can speak about from personal experience. As a child, I had been labeled as having "a bad temper". But, if I accept this label, then I give away my responsibility for control of my behaviour. We are not the victim of our emotions. There are patterns to every emotion that, if we can identify them, we can interrupt the pattern and change our behaviour before it causes the damage we so fear. So how does your anger pattern develop?
I delivered an outburst of anger one evening with my family that stunned everyone. But it wasn't as instantaneous as it may have seemed. The anger had been brewing throughout the day from one incident early in the day which annoyed me. Another a little later on added to the fire. And from then on I was looking for an excuse to unload at the slightest further provocation. So when I received one further and very minor barb, I unloaded with full power that was equivalent to swatting a fly with a barbell.
Had I taken the time to apply EFT at the first perceived slight and gotten deep into and under the anger, then I may have been able to voice my concerns without the associated outburst.
Here I present a longer EFT script that I hope will help you - as it did me - to change your anger pattern. I spent at least half an hour using the various parts of this to work on my anger pattern. Note that I refer to the wrist points. The wrist points can be an alternative to tapping all the finger points and involve tapping the inside of the wrists together.
First you need to start with how you feel in yourself about the anger. Start and continue tapping on the EFT points while saying the phrases:
Karate Chop: I was so angry that I can't accept myself. I'm disappointed in myself. I should be better than this. They didn't deserve to be the brunt of my anger. I feel so ugly and ashamed at what I did. I don't know if I will ever be able to change this. I feel like I have no control over my anger. I don't know if I can ever accept myself when I can get so angry.
Top of Head: This anger feels more powerful than me.
Eyebrow: I don't feel like I can control it.
Side of Eye: Part of me likes the feeling of power that comes with the anger.
Under Eye: Part of me is so ashamed.
Under Nose: I can't really accept myself when I can get this angry.
Chin Point: I remember the look on their faces when I was angry.
Collarbone: The fear in their faces, I don't want them to be afraid of me.
Under Arm: I'm so afraid that the damage done can't be undone. I don't know if I deserve to be free of this guilt.
Wrist Points: I don't believe anyone can really love me when I have this anger within me; I can't really love myself when I know it's there.
Continue to tap for a few rounds to cover everything you feel and say about and to yourself about how you behaved. Now we will use EFT to work on the pattern around the anger.
Karate Chop: Even though it feels like I have no control over my anger, I choose to notice the way it develops. I have a pattern of anger than can be changed. Even though I have a habit of being angry, I choose to bring to my conscious mind the way my anger develops, so that I can heal it.
Top of Head: What is the first thing that happens in my body when I'm starting to feel angry?
Eyebrows: What do I say to myself that tells me I'm getting angry?
Side of Eye: Where in my body do I notice the fire of my anger building?
Under Eye: There are a number of steps to my anger and I choose to pay attention and notice them.
Under Nose: What is the very first thing that happens that tells me I'm getting angry.
Chin Point: I give myself permission to stop a conversation when I notice the first indicators of anger so that I can do some EFT and deal with the feeling.
Collarbone: As I notice my anger pattern, I gain power over it.
Under Arm: There are a number of things that occur before my anger bursts out, and I choose to notice each of them.
Wrist Points: This pattern has been unconscious until now but I'm making it conscious so that I can change it.
Noticing how your anger builds helps unravel the mystery of full blown explosions that nobody sees coming. You then have the ability to notice what is triggering your anger and clear those individual triggers. Maybe it's a tone of voice or a look you receive which starts to get you angry. So do some tapping on the trigger.
Karate Chop: I felt put down by their sarcastic tone of voice. I felt put down and disrespected by their tone of voice. It reminds me of being talked down to as a child. I don't want to be talked to like that because I'm now an adult.
Top of Head: Feeling talked down to like a child.
Eyebrow: Feeling disrespected.
Side of Eye: That tone of voice that gets me angry.
Under Eye: I want to release all reference events for this trigger.
Under Nose: I'm clearing this trigger for my anger.
Chin Point: That tone of voice that still gets me angry.
Collarbone: I won't let anyone talk to me that way.
Under Arm: I want to stand up for myself without having to get angry. I am an adult who can express myself.
Wrist Points: As I clear this trigger, I am beginning to accept myself even more.
There may be more than one trigger to your anger so continue to tap on each trigger that contributes to your anger pattern. You may still have shame, guilt, and regret about what happened so here is a final round to do some more clearing.
Karate Chop: Even though I'm still ashamed at getting so angry, I'm beginning to accept myself. Even though I regret what I did and wish that I could go back and change things, I'm open to accepting myself and the mistakes I made as part of being human. I'm doing my best to improve my behaviour, identifying patterns of anger, and clearing the triggers.
Top of Head: Remaining shame for what happened.
Eyebrows: Remaining regret for how I said what I did.
Side of Eye: Remaining sadness at the hurt I caused.
Under Eye: Remaining shame, regret, and sadness.
Under Nose: I choose to notice my anger patterns and diffuse them as soon as I do.
Chin Point: I choose to be forgiving of myself as I do my best to change my behaviour.
Collarbone: I'm glad I know how to tap so that I can clear my anger patterns.
Under Arm: I'm learning to access the power within my anger and express it in constructive ways.
Wrist Points: I'm noticing and celebrating even the smallest of improvements in my behaviour and I'm becoming even more loving and accepting of myself.
We cannot deny our emotions as they are part of what makes us human but we can change the patterns, triggers and ways that we express them.
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