Anger Management

Even dropping the kids off at school provides tapping opportunities - an anger issue

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Hi Everyone,

Listen in as Eloisa Ramos has an "EFT Tapping Moment." Note how she uses EFT to bring a routine anger to a place of forgiveness.

Hugs, Gary


By Eloisa C. Ramos

"I'm riding my bike to work this morning." my husband tells me at 7:45 am. "I will need to leave by 8:15 am." he continues. "OK." I say, as I realize what this means. I will be the one dropping the kids off at school. Feeling time pressured now, I rush off, running a little behind schedule. We get to the front of the school, and I sigh with relief, thinking we made it on time. But the line of cars going into the school drop off, just sits, bumper to bumper. "What is the problem?" I wonder, a little panicked. I see lots of space inside the courtyard for cars to move up. "Oh, it's that white car, two cars in front of me. It's taking its sweet time, and holding everybody else up! But it's OK," I say trying to reassure myself, "I can wait patiently."

"Woo Hoo! Now, we're moving!" But, this joy only lasts two whole seconds. I'm stuck again! "What is this car in front of me doing?" He stops, exactly where the white car stopped, to let his kids off!! I can't believe it! I am pissed! I honk and back up a little, to go around him. I then pull up as far as I can on the curve, so others can also pull in behind me, to drop their kids off. The bell rings as my kids close the car doors behind them.

We made it!

Now that I'm not under time pressure, I take notice of how angry I'm still feeling. "Where did all this anger come from?" I ask myself. I definitely don't like feeling this way, and this tells me, it is an "EFT tapping moment".

So, I give the intensity of what I'm feeling a rating of 8 out of 10 and I begin tapping the KC point while focusing on the problem and say,

Even though I'm really angry that this person was so thoughtless...
Even though I'm really angry that this person only thinks about himself and not me...

I pause, and as my emotion is reduced, I get an insight, "Oh, I'm taking this personally, and that's why I'm so angry. I'm feeling like this guy intentionally wanted to block me." I resume tapping on the head and do one round of the short version of EFT saying, "This feels like it's personal, but the driver doesn't even know me." I stop to evaluate how I'm feeling. I feel much better, a 3 out of the 8. So, I start another round of tapping,

Even though this driver doesn't consider the needs and goals of the rest of the people behind him...
Even though we are all trying to get our kids to school on time and this driver doesn't recognize this...
Even though the school has rules to help make this morning rush smoother, and this driver was not following the rules...

I continue to the top of the head, "This remaining anger", face points, "this remaining anger?" I finish the round of tapping, feeling pretty good, with no anger left.

As I look at my behavior from that morning, I have to admit that I was afraid my kids were going to be late to school. I assumed that the guy that blocked me had bad intentions, and therefore got angry. I could have gone through the day angry at this guy, who was an obstacle to my life, blaming him for my bad mood. But in fact, upon reflection, I can see he was where he was for this very important purpose: to give me insight into where I need to heal and grow. So, I am thanking this stranger, who had an effect on me and helped me to know myself better. I come back to my tapping moment, tapping on the KC point as I say,

Even though, I was angry at this guy, I forgive myself for judging him and I am grateful that he showed up in my life.
Even though, what appeared as a stressful situation, in reality was just an opportunity for gaining deep insight into my sense of self and into life...
I am grateful for this experience
I am thankful that I can use EFT to help me take any negative experience and turn it into an opportunity for growth and self insight.

Eloisa

 

 

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