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Other Emotional Issues


Core abuse issue occurs while tapping

Important Note: This article was written prior to 2010 and is now outdated. Please use my newest advancement, Optimal EFT. It is more efficient, more powerful and clearly explained in my free e-book, The Unseen Therapist™.  Best wishes, Gary

This very useful insight by Nancy Privett occurred while she was conducting EFT group work during a workshop. One of the attendees was "going nowhere" because, as it turns out, the physical act of tapping was reminding her of physical abuse she experienced as a child. She was actually growing angry rather than showing improvement. Nancy correctly handled this as a core issue and disposed of it handily with EFT. This case is important to read because it points to a reason why EFT may appear not to work in some abuse cases.

By Nancy Privett

Hi Gary,

I just presented an introductory EFT workshop yesterday and something came to light which I think is important. We had just done several rounds of a "group tapping", which was very successful, with only two people out of 24 not experiencing significant relief. One of these people was a woman who experienced absolutely no movement at all.

We were set to take a break, so I spoke to her and she said that she had experienced a lot of physical abuse in her childhood and that when she began tapping on herself, following my instruction to "tap hard enough so that you can hear it, but not hard enough to hurt," she felt her habitual defense to the abuse come up. This defense was a strong and angry voice that said: "Oh, you want to fight, do you?" She realized that the tapping just felt like more abuse, and was actually getting her angry.

What a valuable insight! I told her that I believed she could clear the issue of the tapping feeling like abuse and that it must be addressed first, before any other problems she wanted to work on. I suggested that she either tap very, very lightly, or if even that was too much, just imagine herself tapping, beginning with the setup affirmation of "Even though this tapping just feels like more physical abuse, and that really makes me mad, I completely and deeply love and accept myself." She tried tapping very lightly and that did the trick. After that, she cleared issues easily, and even came up in front of the room where we worked on a upsetting memory, using the movie technique. Everything cleared easily and gracefully. She was open to having me explain to the group what she had experienced at first with the tapping.

She happened to be insightful enough to realize what was happening when she first began. If she hadn't, she may have thought the tapping just didn't work.

I love that the problem caused by using EFT was also solvable with EFT, with just a little adjustment. As always, an amazing gift.

Nancy Privett


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