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Important Note: This article was written prior to 2010 and is now outdated. Please use my newest advancement, Optimal EFT. It is more efficient, more powerful and clearly explained in my free e-book, The Unseen Therapist™.  Best wishes, Gary

Hi Everyone,

Gene Monterastelli shows us how this phrase provides many benefits.

Hugs, Gary


I was working with a client and she asked me a question, "Why do you use the phrase 'I give myself permission...' so much when we are tapping?"  At first I was caught a little off guard because I didn't realize how much I did use the phase.

The reason I use the phrase is because we don't often feel like we deserve the things we actually do deserve.  When there is a part of our self or our past that needs to be healed there often is going to be a part present that is resistant to that healing.  The most common resistance to this healing is a feeling of not being worthy of the change.  The feeling of unworthiness generally takes two forms.

The first is the feeling of not being worthy of healing something that already exists.  You might believe that you deserve the pain you have … you are being punished … you shouldn't ask for better … this is as good as it is going to get.

The second feeling is of not being worthy of better in the future.  You might have thoughts like: who are you to think you should have a better job … better life … more pay … doing work you love … losing weight … finding the partner of your dreams?  You already have too much.  You shouldn't ask for more.  There are people with much less than you.  You are being greedy.  Only good people deserve more and you are not good.

These are very powerful thoughts and beliefs that can imprison us for years.  When we have these feelings it is often even hard to get the strength to do any sort of change work.  This is the reason the phase "I give myself permission to…" is so powerful.  It is speaking directly to the part of us that doesn't feel it is allowed to change because it is not worthy enough to change.

The idea of permission is very powerful.  I often tell my clients, "I give you permission to change your life for the better and you are allowed to give yourself permission as well."  Just by having someone else tell us it is okay, we suddenly feel like it really is okay.  I have even gone as far as to write some clients notes (just like we use to get from mom and dad for getting out of school) to give them permission to change your life.

It is a very easy thing to incorporate into your tapping routine.  Any area you want to change just add, "I give myself permission to…" as you tap.



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