- Articles & Ideas
- Being Specific
- Ann Adams on BEING SPECIFIC
- Using NLP to Chunk Down for specifics in an EFT session
- The importance of being specific in the EFT Setup Phrase
- Find Early Specific Events
- How to apply EFT when there are no clear, specific memories to tap on
- Tapping on specific events without knowing what they are
- What to do when you can't find your own specific events or issues
- Two cases: (1) Being Specific and (2) Being General
- EFT for the Soul - global versus specific approaches
- How to collapse multiple SPECIFIC EVENTS in one Borrowing Benefits session
- EFT for a bashful bladder - a beautiful example of going for SPECIFIC EVENTS
- Instruction
- Surrogate
- How to do Intentional (or Surrogate) EFT--a 4 Part Series
- Using surrogate EFT for easing a courtroom testimony
- A followup after a surrogate session in Albuquerque--Betsy's impressive results
- A touching story: Easing Mary's death through surrogate EFT
- Breathing problems, surrogate tapping, depression and Try it on Everything
- Surrogate tapping on an "Entity"
- After trying a different approach for Surrogate EFT, a crying baby quiets down
- Successful Surrogate EFT for Seizures
- Surrogate tapping on a sneezing attack, Successful use of EFT on a raspy throat AND arm wrestling success using only two fingers.
- Surrogate EFT relieves baby
- Some thoughts about surrogate (remote) EFT
- Resolving a family fight with surrogate EFT
- Surrogate tapping and collarbone breathing
- Helping Helpers: Using Surrogate EFT for Emergencies
- Surrogate tapping for terrorists
- Surrogate EFT Taken Another Step - Clearing Ancestral (Foundational) Issues
- Surrogate/distance tapping for Cassie the dog
- "Seeing" disrupted energy enhances mental (surrogate) tapping
- Solid motivation to use Surrogate EFT
- Surrogate EFT for Chronic Pulmonary Obstruction Disorder
- Beth's Stalker Problem Resolved with Surrogate EFT
- Successful surrogate tapping for schizophrenic son
- Surrogate EFT to help patients going through medical procedures
- Surrogate EFT arrests a grand mal seizure
- Responses to questions on surrogate muscle testing
- Simple uses of Surrogate EFT during every day conversations
- What to do in the hospital
- A surrogate EFT Teddy Bear became a special friend for a housebound woman
- Surrogate EFT substantially aids incontinence, anger, dementia and hearing loss.
- Skeptic of surrogate EFT becomes a believer
- Surrogate tapping stops serious nose bleed
- Surrogate EFT -- "The pain is leaving now through my fingertips."
- Techniques
- The Volcano Technique
- The Movie Technique for kinesthetic learners
- Behind the Scenes of the Movie Technique
- For procrastination: The "Feel the Feeling" Technique
- Creative Uses of The EFT Movie Technique
- Living your Dreams with The Hero Technique
- The Gratitude Diet - A Thanksgiving Technique
- Time and Reframing: An Easy Technique that Generates Fast Results
- The benefits of describing EFT as a relaxation technique
- A short version of the Collar Bone Breathing Technique
- Stepping back from the movie in the EFT Movie Technique
- Turning the Movie Technique into a cartoon helps with Dysautonomia episode
- Discovering "core scenes"
- Variations on EFT's Movie Technique
- Doing the EFT Constricted Breathing Technique a few times a day increased Paul
- The "Let it be Easy" Technique
- EFT and the Double Bubble technique: Or how to successfully deal with chronic issues!
- The Argument Tapping Technique
- Doing the EFT Movie Technique in slow motion -- getting to important and otherwise hidden aspects
- The Stepping into Neutral Technique
- Everyday EFT to Create a Fabulous Life--The Emotional Joy Technique
- The "Tap while you Gripe" Technique
- The EFT Imagineering Technique
- Gwyneth Moss's Imagineering Technique for Endometriosis
- The "Turbo-Tapping" Technique
- The Bundling Movie Technique for gently addressing long term abuse cases
- Refusal Tapping Technique
- General
- Ideas on Muscle Testing, EFT and Developing Intuition
- Why do we use negatives in the EFT setup statement?
- Gwyneth Moss on Reality Testing
- The Alternate Phrase Technique--tapping on both sides of a conflict.
- Soft language to ease The EFT Set-Up Phrases
- Ideas for enhancing the standard EFT Setup
- How do I choose the phrases to use while doing EFT?
- A New Way to Use the
- A useful EFT phrase--"Reclaiming" all our possibilities
- How Do You Know What To Say For an EFT Setup Phrase?
- Useful ways to expand the EFT Set-up Phrase
- Using "It's In Here" in the EFT Setup phrase
- Testing our work and personal radiation
- Using the 9 Gamut Procedure when emotion gets "stuck in the right brain"
- Jarrod Bailey from Australia experiments with EFT Setup Phrases and explains his findings
- Touch And Breathe--TAB Paper
- Injecting "want to" into the EFT Setup language
- EFT Imagineering cleared lungs and improved breathing
- Tapping on both sides of the body, on feel-good points only, then taking deep breaths after each point
- The advantages of using the 9 Gamut Procedure
- EFT to clear chakras and increase vibration
- Using the EFT setup statement as a a pledge
- Dr. Carol Look discusses the importance of testing in EFT
- Effectively using "What if" in the EFT Setup Phrase
- A creative way to develop EFT Setup statements
- Testing your EFT work - The
- Adding muscle testing to EFT
- Surrogate
- Self
- EFT for Self Confidence
- EFT for the lingering effects of a brain tumor from 12 years before
- Surrogate EFT for Yourself
- Self Image: An insightful look at the "Writings on our Walls"
- Developing self compassion with persistent EFT
- The 3-2-1 process: untangling yourself from others
- Mary Hunt on Intuition: Getting yourself out of the way.
- Thoughts on Surrogate EFT and "getting yourself out of the way"
- Frances Songhurst finally gets a rapid result for herself
- EFT helps a man look people in the eye
- Karen's thoughts on self forgiveness
- Freeing our "Critical Mind" into Self Acceptance with EFT
- Using "I love THAT about myself" in the EFT process
- Tapping on one's self talk--a great idea for collapsing our "inner critic"
- Getting the most out of self-help books with EFT
- Self sabotage-healing the parts that don
- EFT gives relief to a self-cutter by first finding emotional causes
- Anja shares her self-healing process
- Resolving childhood issues with EFT increases compassion for self
- Billy McCombie self applies EFT for an impressive list of benefits
- S-L-O-W EFT for self help on broad issues
- Give Yourself a Gift by Creating an EFT Journal
- When self acceptance becomes a problem...
- EFT for relief from feeling responsible for everyone else before taking care of self
- Tapping for negative self-talk - "I am unable to step out of it"
- Paradoxes in validating one's Self
- EFT improves self esteem
- Rue Hass on "I deeply and completely accept myself"
- The role of self-punishment in Dis-ease
- Steve Wells series on EFT and Self-Acceptance--Part 1 of 4--(subsequent parts given below)
- A Complex Case - Doubts and Self-empowerment - The Return of Hair and more
- Julie Howard uses EFT for being hard on herself
- EFT As a Conversation With Yourself
- Self acceptance without judgment
- Professional
- An answer as to why some clients do not tap even when they know EFT will help them?
- Two successes where the client surrogate taps for other people--everyone benefits
- Tips to consider when you have had "incomplete success" with an EFT client
- Conversations with Dr. Mercola Part 3
- Do you attract clients that want everything for free?
- When should you consult an EFT Practitioner?
- The Apex Effect -- client cannot even remember the details of her former problem
- Dr. Patricia Carrington's use of "Choices" in the EFT Setup Phrase
- Rebecca Marina's 10 steps to building a prosperous EFT practice
- When The Client Wishes To Maintain Privacy
- Enhancing the life of Burak -- a Down Syndrome client
- Using EFT for the client who feels bad about herself
- 8 tips for building your EFT practice with email newsletters
- Conversations with Dr. Mercola -- Part 4 of 7
- EFT Clients!
- Kinetic tremor disappears as Turkish MD addresses client's emotional issues
- 7 Step pre-tapping checklist for client work
- When the client won't speak about the issue
- Helping clients by using "Meta Programs"
- EFT Successfully Collapses Childhood Beliefs About Food -- Client Stops Overeating
- The client who is "Never Good Enough" and The Brick Wall Technique
- Doing EFT for the client that is afraid to get started
- How this therapist uses Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and EFT together
- Conversations with Dr. Mercola -- Part 5 of 7
- Improving results with dissociated clients
- What Questions Should You Ask When Seeking An EFT Practitioner?
- Thoughts on following your EFT intuition with clients
- EFT from a CLIENT'S POINT OF VIEW
- Hair dresser helps client raise her arm - The salon clients cheered
- How to search for an EFT Practitioner
- How to Build Your EFT Practice by Leveraging Your Biggest Resource
- Physical therapy like it should be--dramatic improvements in a rehab center
- When clients get overwhelmed or frustrated with EFT
- When clients can
- Conversations with Dr. Mercola -- Part 6 of 7
- Tips for when clients have difficulty accessing their feelings
- EFT Speeds Rehabilitation and Physical Therapy: Irene Mitchell Update
- How To Tell In Advance Whether An EFT Practitioner Has Sufficient Skill in EFT
- How to use EFT when the client won't reveal the issue
- Dr. Pat Carrington's "EFT At Work In A Hospital" Series
- Client has Somatic Release that involved shaking in a seizure-like fashion
- Curtis Steele, MD shares his thoughts and experiences using EFT in a psychiatric practice
- Good reasons for using an EFT Practitioner
- Ingrid Dinter's Box Technique for helping a client wind down when time is running out in a session
- EFT used to calm down a client during a severe seizure episode
- Working through the pain and fear in the midst of divorce
- EFT'er encourages clients to find their favorite EFT points
- Conversations with Dr. Mercola -- Part 7 of 7
- The Emotional Scale in EFT Practice
- Hearing voices and multiple issues relieved: "One session of EFT does more for me than years of [conventional] therapy ever could."
- Is Your Chosen EFT Practitioner Really Helping You?
- Some thoughts about doing EFT with multilingual clients
- What stops clients from pursuing their dreams?
- Surrogate EFT used to calm down a bi-polar client
- Why see an EFT practitioner?
- Fitting EFT within the client's belief system
- Limiting beliefs may limit your EFT practice
- Making A Great Impression With Your New EFT Client
- Conversations with Dr. Mercola - Part 1 of 7
- EFT with a schizophrenic client
- A detailed EFT oriented session via email for a client with serious issues
- The Pros and Cons of EFT Telephone Therapy
- Did EFT help Gayla's client reduce the blockage in his arteries?
- Surrogate EFT brings calming effect to Schizophrenic client
- Yet another impressive use of Surrogate EFT--this time an audience sends the client out of the room and taps for her
- The Many Factors Affecting Client Motivation and Follow Through
- If the client starts shaking...
- If your client believes that the world is run by a red elephant....
- What to do when your client is beset by an "evil monster"
- Using EFT to create positive self beliefs for a client who deems herself "not good enough"
- 4 Part Series on Helping Clients with their 0-10 Accuracy
- Psychosis: Hearing Voices--EFT achieves more in one session than 13 years of medications and traditional therapy.
- Karen Donaldson Highlights Some "Slimming Down" Successes With Her Clients -- Many Side Issues Explored
- Adding EFT to conventional talk therapy
- EFT aids an "energy sensitive" client
- Criminal defense attorney uses EFT to help innocent client during cross-examination
- Conversations with Dr. Mercola -- Part 2 of 7
- EFT and Time Line Therapy helps 92 year old man live in the now
- How do I use EFT for the client who has many, many, many severe issues?
- Listening to this client's words led to a surprising core issue
- Successful Surrogate EFT for a Cerebral Palsy client
- Profuse bleeding stops even though client was on Coumadin (blood thinner)
- Shaking Off Negative Client Energies Between Sessions
- Core Issues
- Ilana Weiler uses the 7 Whys method for getting to core issues
- MD resolves arm weakness problem by relieving an emotional core issue
- Two examples where core issues show up during an EFT session
- A Useful Way To Find Core Issues In The EFT Process
- Using the Palace of Possibilities to uncover core issues
- The "Audio Technique" for getting to core issues
- A clever way to find core issues
- A surprising core issue behind business call reluctance
- Tracing core issues back to the birth process
- Blending Redecision Therapy with EFT--a creative way to uncover core issues
- Iris finds her own core issue
- Eliminating Hot Flashes With EFT Tapping -- Surprising Core Issues
- Getting To Feelings And Core Issues By Imagining You Are Writing A Story - A Version Of The EFT Tell The Story Technique
- An Impressive Search For EFT Core Issues -- Asking The Right Questions
- The "7 Whys" method for getting to core issues
- When "insignificant" childhood events are the real core issues
- In Search Of An Elusive EFT Core Issue
- Finding An EFT Core Issue -- "But What Did He Give You?"
- A self questioning method for getting to your core issues
- An extraordinary account of tapping on a prenatal core issue -- or how to change a life in moments
- Finding and Dealing with Core Events
- Barbara shares an insightful way to find core issues
- An excellent question to help find core issues
- Collapsing the core issues of procrastination with EFT
- A classic case for finding a core issue
- Finding core issues when someone is emotionally flat lining
- The core issue behind Carl's inability to "perform"
- A clever method for finding core issues
- Obsession with having affairs ends after finding the core issue
- Why Cathy didn't enjoy Christmas--an embarrassing core event
- Using Tail Enders to find core issues
- Newcomers
- Two Newcomer EFT Tapping Successes: Fainting And Shyness
- A newbie dropped pounds at a time she usually gained
- Relative Newbie's First Major Tapping Toe Stub - Foot Pain Issue
- Newbie quiets her daughter
- Doing EFT for a newcomer without having to explain it
- Easy and Effective EFT for Newcomers
- Newbie has great results with persistent hiccoughs!
- Borrowing Benefits newcomer details impressive success
- EFT Newcomer Helps Her Daughter Relieve Constipation
- Quality advice for EFT Newbies
- How watching the EFT DVDs helped a nausea case
- EFT newbie successfully surrogates for her dying plant
- A newbie with 6 rounds of EFT eliminates her bladder infection pain
- Using EFT
- Benefits of using EFT in a cardiac group
- Tapping on TREEs -- a metaphor for using EFT
- Using EFT for the "Grey Life Syndrome"
- Using EFT to resolve issues in your dreams
- Using EFT with massage
- Using EFT within a unique form of meditation
- Using EFT for a stroke and other issues -- In praise of the 9-gamut procedure
- Using EFT to eliminate recurring dreams
- Using EFT for Self-Doubt
- Using EFT to say Good-Bye to a dying person
- Using EFT to release "the decision to be miserable"
- Using EFT for the Inner Child
- Using EFT with a dementia patient: A touching story
- Using EFT over the phone
- Using EFT for bothersome noises
- Using EFT to easily learn another language
- Using EFT for Procrastination
- Marielle discovers a lifetime core issue while using EFT for a bad cough
- Using EFT for the side effects of Medications
- Using EFT for feeling like a failure
- Using EFT for cerebral palsy
- Using EFT for emphysema
- Using EFT to build emotional strength in overwhelming circumstances
- Using EFT for Menopause, Hot flashes and Chills
- Using EFT for Scleroderma
- Using EFT for preventing illness
- Using EFT for Self-Confidence in a specific area
- Using EFT for overcoming procrastination
- Personal Pleasure Procedure - Using EFT to improve your romantic life
- Using EFT for a double ankle sprain
- Using EFT for Abundance releases limiting beliefs
- Using EFT to rejuvenate a withered plant
- Using EFT to advance your business
- Using EFT for world crises
- Using EFT for clearing poltergeist energy
- After using EFT, Paul's 84 year old mum recovered very quickly from a surgical operation
- Using EFT for a choking emergency
- Using EFT to neutralize "family differences"
- Using EFT to release the pain of saying goodbye
- Using EFT for clearing clutter and organizing your life
- Using EFT to increase blood platelet count--an article with far reaching implications
- Using EFT for old and frail people
- Easy stress reducer using EFT with statements like, "The world is conspiring in my favor"
- 11 year old girl finds lost cell phone using EFT
- Using EFT for our illiterate and semi-literate brothers and sisters
- Using EFT for struggling students with ADD
- Using EFT to Trade the Market
- A successful case of using EFT for candida yeast infections
- Persistence worked when using EFT at the first signs of a cold
- Using EFT for an ailing pony
- Using EFT for wrinkles - An alternative to Botox?
- Using EFT to overcome the resistance to exercise
- Using EFT while you are in an argument
- Using EFT for Chronic Problems
- Heaviness in both legs disappears after using EFT on "These Growing Pains"
- Some thoughts on using EFT for personal peace
- Using EFT for the Holidays
- Using EFT for Poison Ivy
- Using EFT over the phone for on-the-spot issues
- Thoughts on using EFT for procrastination
- Using EFT for "Everything is my fault!"
- A guy thing: Tips on using EFT for male ED
- Using EFT for Tachycardia
- Using EFT for Chemotherapy symptoms
- An encouraging example of using EFT for Crohn's Disease
- Using EFT for Alzheimer's disease
- Many benefits in 3 months using EFT's Personal Peace Procedure
- Using EFT for Muscular Dystrophy
- Some tips when using EFT by yourself
- Using EFT to bring up core memories
- Using EFT for Herpes
- Using EFT on Asperger
- How to Handle Self Sabotage by Using EFT
- Using EFT from pre-birth to the present
- Using EFT to enhance persuasion skills
- Using EFT with our "internal parents"
- Using EFT for spiritual issues
- Using EFT to Create
- Success by using EFT while reading our Newsletter articles
- A subtle, yet powerful self-image benefit from using EFT
- Suggestions for using EFT with a Mother
- Using EFT to avert an amputation
- A method for using EFT regarding the "difficult people" in your life.
- Using EFT to relieve a cold sore (Herpes HSV-1)
- Using EFT to learn foreign language pronunciation
- Specific couple techniques using EFT
- Using EFT for Jet Lag--even with 4 time changes
- Using EFT to manifest your goal more easily
- Using EFT with a Skeptic
- Using EFT for Premature Ejaculation
- Using EFT with computers, web-cameras and microphones
- Using EFT to cut "energetic cords" of attachment to people
- Using EFT for Goal Setting
- Using EFT for motivation to exercise
- Using EFT to avoid tears while chopping onions
- Using EFT to reclaim our personal power
- Using EFT for inanimate objects may point to your own issues
- Using EFT to Enhance Bedroom Romance
- Using EFT to find (and collapse) a limiting belief
- Using EFT for mother issues
- Using EFT for Plantar Fasciitis
- Using EFT with a Survivor of Domestic Violence
- Using EFT to better enjoy certain foods and expand sensory experience
- Using EFT for forgiveness
- Using EFT with A Course in Miracles teachings
- Using EFT for racial prejudice
- Lifelong car sickness disappears--but only after using EFT on the real issue
- Using EFT to bring us back into balance during challenging situations
- Using EFT for a clogged ear
- Follow up on "Using EFT to avert an amputation"
- Using EFT for Trigeminal Neuralgia
- Using EFT for changing habits and more
- Using EFT in singing lessons
- Using EFT for your Biggest Problem
- Ideas for those using EFT to further their own personal development
- Using EFT on imaginary parts
- Classic case of using EFT for the child within
- Using EFT for Dreamwork
- Using EFT for Marathon Training and difficult things to do
- Using EFT when a specific word triggers you
- Using EFT to support the In Vitro Fertilization (IVF) process
- Using EFT to regain Laurence's sense of taste.
- Big benefits from using EFT on an "irrelevant memory"
- Tips and strategies for using EFT with Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD)
- Using EFT to reduce our judgment of others
- Using EFT in the Emergency Room: Raging bladder infection subsides
- Q & A Series on using EFT
- Using EFT to start the day
- Passing a driving test using EFT - a case with many aspects
- General
- Food stuck in the throat goes down easily after EFT
- Thoughts on mental tapping and reframing
- In Praise of Continual Tapping
- Tapping back your sense of taste when you have a cold or flu
- Scientific evolution of EFT from TFT
- Feeling and observing emotions
- Does EFT compete with God?
- EFT engages inner child to relieve indigestion (dyspepsia).
- Eric no longer hears voices
- EFT assists Polio patient
- EFT for eliminating hiccups changes a skeptic
- EFT eases nausea
- EFT is helpful when you are afraid to speak up in bed
- How racism can lead to health problems and what to do about it
- EFT helps a Premature Ejaculation (PE) problem
- Laura Orchard uses EFT during a dream
- Bedroom frustration resolved - including follow-ups
- Suzanne Lerner gives her thoughts on diagnosis
- Building confidence and releasing the inner critic
- How to Get Into Businesses and Organizations By Getting Welcomed Through the Back Door
- Nothing in my traditional medical training in Anatomy, Physiology or Pathology even hinted at what I am now witnessing (with EFT) - Chuck Gebhardt, MD
- EFT on the move -- for busy people
- More successful cases from Dr. Eric Robins
- EFT for Speech Loss following a Stroke
- Can EFT tele-classes cause problems for some participants?
- Discovering the cause of humming in the ears
- EFT approaches for "Loose Ligaments" that can apply to countless other issues
- Asking good questions to elicit tappable issues
- EFT for elderly people who stuff their feelings
- EFT with hypnosis provides long term benefits for abandonment issue
- Have you noticed the important feedback you get while doing EFT?
- Leslie Anne Lackman successfully uses humor and takes aim at neuropeptides
- TAPPING
- EFT for disliking someone shifts resentments to acceptance -- a major result
- Combining EFT with Dialoguing for impressive results
- Did Karen
- EFT for those who grind their teeth
- Healing the wounded Inner Child with EFT
- EFT's Borrowing Benefits collapses 36 issues in 2.5 hours
- EFT after a horrible nightmare
- Problems that are difficult to assess in the here and now. (Several responses follow)
- 25 Ways to be a Fantastic Therapist
- A tapping tip to lighten the load
- Knocking down the negative walls to let the garden grow - a tale of fertility
- Using movies to enhance and test our work.
- When Your Intensity Level Goes UP Instead Of Down With EFT
- Combining EFT with Timelines
- 10 minutes of EFT put 10 years of Restless Leg Syndrome (RLS) to rest
- EFT stops a blood blister from forming
- Taking the edge off intense emotions--Putting them in a box and tapping on them
- Tapping with good photos and bad photos
- Improving the ability to laugh with EFT
- A tapping song
- EFT on autopilot
- EFT resolves limiting childhood beliefs
- Medical transcriptionist says that in thousands of serious medical cases, she never saw a cure for anyone
- Borrowing Benefits gets impressive results on TV
- A short woman no longer feels intimidated around tall people after one EFT session
- Re-evaluating the Apex problem
- Tapping along with a prayer
- Handling vertigo symptoms over the phone
- Rapid Relief for Herpes
- Peak Performance Series
- A solid "Doing Business with EFT" idea from Rebecca Marina
- Emphatic EFT dramatically shifts many things--use this on stubborn issues
- EFT for eliminating barriers to our psychic abilities (and intuition)
- Using onomatopoeias with EFT
- Roxy gets multiple "Bedroom O's" with EFT
- EFT for severe cerebral palsy
- Rue Hass blends EFT with the wisdom of
- A woman with scoliosis finds balance with EFT - follow-up included
- EFT and Ho'oponopono
- Blood improves after a few minutes of EFT
- EFT helps a boy who has many health challenges
- Barb St. Dennis had severe Hepatitis C but now has completely normal blood tests
- Susan de Tarr eliminates her 54 year old motion sickness in 10 minutes
- Using a metaphor to handle stubborn emotional issues
- How to convince an entire audience about EFT
- Treating negative beliefs with EFT
- Psychiatrist relieves sexual exhibitionism with EFT--4 year follow-up
- Who do YOU think you are?
- Emotion and Perception: EFT makes it a two way street
- An EFT method for installing new behaviors
- Two ways to use EFT for Restless Leg Syndrome
- Did EFT cure Lupus?
- Insights on Borrowing Benefits with EFT
- Hearing the energy shift while doing EFT
- A clever combination of tapping and visualization
- Introducing EFT to kids by way of their "magic fingers"
- EFT for Celiac disease -- no symptoms for 4 months and counting
- EFT and "being the bee"
- EFT helps a serious infection - the redness subsides before their eyes
- EFT for the mental game of poker
- Methods for getting to deep issues, even in a group setting
- EFT on an inanimate object: The car that wouldn't start
- Using silent tapping in cases where speaking out loud is too loony
- Combining EFT with Humor
- Taking "The Secret" for a walk with EFT
- EFT helps remove "stuck ring"
- Removing the blocks to your goals with EFT
- Key Concepts in Mastering EFT
- Manifesting the life of your dreams with EFT
- Can EFT be used to manifest what you want in your life?
- Inner Child Expert uses EFT for her own healing
- Symptoms quickly fade for a child with a Bi-Polar Diagnosis
- The "Gratitude for My Mistakes" method
- Professional writer uses EFT to overcome writer's block
- EFT helps a bullied woman stay at her job
- Talking to Christians About EFT
- Warming up to "cold calls" with EFT
- An interesting way to do EFT in a group
- EFT for discomfort with networking - an interesting solution
- The Value of Matching and Pacing Belief Systems in Group Training
- Borrowing Benefits in the Criminal Justice System
- Do you have difficulty receiving positive feelings from others?
- The "proper words" to use for the EFT Set-up Statement
- A Conversation With Your Body
- Borrowing Benefits hastens the healing of mystery thumb sores
- EFT provides benefits using Future Tapping
- A New Moment in Science -- useful EFT article for distribution
- What the Bleep do We Know about EFT?
- Curse words aid the clearing of emotional issues
- The Human Brain and Law of Attraction: Optimizing Brain Function with EFT
- Try a motivational Power Hour to improve your business
- Let it be easy
- Banishing the Barriers to having a thriving EFT business
- How to handle emotions about the cheating spouse
- Cascade tapping
- EFT turned Masha into a runner - an interesting side effect
- 200 people watch as EFT improves Range of Motion for a Nurse's arm
- Blending NLP with EFT
- Breaking habits
- More thoughts about stopping colds with EFT
- Relaxing a dying man
- Using
- We are babes crawling on the floor of the Universe
- An MD successfully uses EFT on a Hiatal Hernia and Candidiasis
- Technical article: Influencing peptides with EFT
- Can You Influence Another Person To Use EFT If They Are Reluctant To Do So?
- EFT for faulty beliefs
- EFT and Reframing using Counter-Examples
- What do you do for friends who incessantly bend your ear while venting their problems?
- EFT for people who go blank when asked to speak
- EFT for sciatica and a 6 year old wounded thumb
- EFT helps a young musician stop shaking
- Tapping with a poem as inspiration
- "God Tapping"
- Loving your feminine body
- Having trouble "letting go" in the bedroom
- Getting EFT Blocks and Barriers out of the way - a list of questions
- Wisdom from Mair Llewellyn regarding the "Writing on our Walls"
- EFT fixes car to pass inspection
- Incorporating EFT into Corporate Programs
- Ted Robinson's tips for doing Borrowing Benefits groups
- EFT -- a quality aid for Shingles
- Visualizing and tapping on limiting beliefs
- Strong correlation found between EFT and Dr. Emoto's work with water
- Ann Adams on getting EFT accepted by Institutions
- Eliminating shingles pain in 1/2 hour
- Why People Sometimes Have Negative Feelings After Doing EFT
- Tapping while traveling can improve your mood
- EFT calms elderly woman
- For the skeptics--Is EFT a placebo?
- Marie's "molestation secret"
- Persistent EFT helps with unnecessary worry and a feeling of always being responsible -- many side issues collapse as well
- A very useful method for getting to important issues
- EFT for an aversion to stuff that disgusts you
- Karen helped her father recover the use of his fingers after a stroke
- EFT for feeling overly responsible
- EFT and The Power of Reframing
- Tell your friends, there is, at last, a cure for the common cold!
- EFT and insights (cognitive change)
- Positively adjusting the perceptions of others with EFT
- Giving more meaning to the 0-10 intensity rating
- A clever combo of EFT and Essences
- MD Applies EFT to Successfully Relieve Urethral Pain
- Paralysis finally overcome after everything else failed
- An important case on aspects--Martin's learning challenge
- EFT relieves "incurable" Restless Leg Syndrome (RLS)
- How a physician uses EFT
- EFT for Boredom and Loneliness
- Low Libido is not always as simple as it appears
- Facial paralysis clears in one
- EFT for the complexities of a single, dating life
- Dawson Church successfully applies EFT for his episode of gout
- Persistent, quality EFT adds 5 inches to Gillian's bust line
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- Aparna
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- EFT for people who are sensitive
- EFT for painful cramping
- WHO AM I NOW??? How Identity Issues Block Abundance
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- Creating a remarkable bridge to our former history
- Technical evidence of the link between emotional causes and physical ailments
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- Carol Look Shows us How to Release Procrastination with EFT
- Attracting Abundance by Shifting Your Energy
- Helpful hints for the Holidays.
- EFT and visible changes in physical appearance
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- Connecting to our Birthright of Fertility
- How to tap into the
- How to get EFT into Schools
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- What is your body trying to tell you?
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- EFT for past life issues
- EFT for Body Dysmorphic Disorder (BDD) and a host of other issues
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- Interview with Gary regarding EFT and yeast problems
- Tapping on gratitude for EFT
- I simply could not dance with Gary!!
- After EFT, Kay
- This is simply priceless to a mother of a 16 year old
- A procedure for dealing with the resistance to heal
- A Useful Method for "Private Tapping"
- To Lead or Not to Lead...
- Looking waaay in the past for the cause of a physical symptom
- Overcoming a lifelong fruit revulsion and some side benefits
- One person
- EFT is effective despite language barriers
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- Two examples where working on one issue provides relief for another
- Important EFT topic: Doing the best we can
- Useful thoughts on integrating EFT within the military
- Eckhart Tolle
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- EFT for helping a mother bond with her child
- Why do we sometimes avoid tapping?
- How EFT unclogged my toilet
- Resolving emotional causes for erectile dysfunction
- The Inner Committee
- EFT substantially aids swallowing problem
- Can we affect inanimate objects better with EFT? - Rebecca's engine light
- Methods for working with pain
- A humorous reply to an EFT skeptic
- EFT enhances math scores
- Praise for EFT from a Buddhist Monk
- EFT calms an autistic boy in school
- Cognitive Shifts (Belief Changes) That Work
- EFT: The Gift to Unwrap and Use before the Holidays!
- Another successful hiccoughs (hiccups) case
- Did EFT help relieve menopause symptoms?
- EFT for addressing what happened in your day -- use it daily for solid long term benefits
- EFT for economic stress -- using "I prefer peace"
- A Psychologist in India uses EFT for suicide intervention
- Demonstrating EFT to a mental health support team
- How to remember your dreams with EFT
- Borrowing Benefits for a seemingly unrelated issue
- New Uses for EFT
- Questions on PR as well as possible dangers. (Other responses follow)
- EFT helps alleviate several issues associated with infidelity
- Tuning in to the problem
- Using Galvanic Skin Response to validate EFT
- NLP procedures enhance anyone's delivery of EFT
- "Helpless to get what I want" - Using intuition to get at important issues
- MD writes article on Emotions, Energy, and Healing
- Tapping on "what didn
- An aneurism left a man's hand shaking, unable to write for 12 years.
- How to use EFT with your dreams to collapse important emotional issues
- Resolving two bothersome tics with EFT
- Saying "goodbye" with the
- An at risk coronary patient has normal arteries and flawless angiogram after persistent EFT for two months
- Tapping while responding to a nasty comment from the past
- EFT for looking forward instead of backwards
- EFT in Daily Life
- How Do You Know You Are Benefiting From EFT Much As You Can?
- Cold Calling: "I'm a second-class citizen, and I have to keep my mouth shut!"
- EFT and the taming of the tongue
- It is your response that counts.
- Gwyneth Moss on The Importance of Rehearsal in an EFT session
- Improve your success rate by asking the right questions
- How do you feel ABOUT your body having pain?
- Was this a negative reaction to EFT?
- Many benefits from tapping on a prayer
- Future tapping to get what you want
- The ABC approach to EFT
- Ideas for winding up EFT sessions
- Metaphors, Humour and EFT
- Use EFT when you are afraid to speak up
- Success via tapping on a two-sided conflict
- Validating EFT with Neurofeedback
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- After 9 years suffering with polycystic ovary syndrome, Jenn finds relief with EFT
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- Acupuncturist uses EFT and eliminates her own shingles in three days
- Thoughts on EFT and Intention
- For those who have difficulty telling left from right
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- Learning, intelligence and "emotional static"
- Psychiatric Nurse gives pointers for dealing with severe emotional disorders
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- Try EFT on everything--even an oncoming fainting spell
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- Am I a failure at EFT if there is no miracle?
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- A physicist speaks
- Feeling woosy from Alcohol
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- A New Way to Express Gratitude with EFT
- A common sense procedure for getting EFT results
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- Did Mary
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- A clever "Chasing the Pain" case
- How to know when the healing is done
- Clearing past issues from the walls of our mind
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- Using humor with EFT
- How to handle a "vague feeling" with EFT
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- Dr. Barr used EFT after cutting off the tip of his thumb
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- Thoughts about inheriting illness from our ancestors
- Using the term "somehow..." within the EFT process
- Twelve years of facial numbness eliminated with 2 rounds of EFT
- Blending EFT with Homeopathy
- A Lesson in EFT Intuition--Letting it flow through you
- EFT brings relief for ALS
- How to tell others about EFT
- Some thoughts on when to use "I choose" vs. "I prefer"
- EFT for changing entrenched habits
- Experts point to dramatic changes in brain waves as a result of EFT
- John
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- Did 20 minutes of EFT straighten bones that had knitted improperly 50 years before?
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- Did EFT bring this man out of a coma?
- Tap and be rich
- "It was impossible for the testicle to descend on its own."
- The Merits of Daily Tapping
- Is it safe to change?
- Processing your life's key words with EFT
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- Gratitude tapping
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- Quickie pain relief--A "one point wonder".
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- Messages from an oven
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- Five-for-one benefits from an introductory EFT group
- Making EFT a routine
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- EFT, ED and related bedroom issues
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- Borrowing Benefits while watching The EFT Course
- EFT assists conception
- Who do YOU think you are?
- Using Role Playing With EFT
- Headache relief over the phone
- MD uses EFT for a demented woman
- Resentment gets in the way of abundance
- Injured toe gains relief using two important EFT concepts
- Sarah Jordan makes progress after realizing a childhood need
- Aiming EFT at our Future
- What to do when the "Bedroom Spark" goes out
- Tap on experiences that are stuck in parts of your body
- The young woman who kept quitting her jobs
- How to create empowering reframes (seeing things differently) with EFT
- Praise for tapping along with the EFT DVDs
- EFT for a spider (and mosquito) bite
- EFT helps Elaine learn the clarinet at 50
- Two stories to create a bridge between your audience and EFT
- Two cases: Putting on needed pounds with EFT & Holding water for an ultrasound
- Changing a man's life with EFT--including pain, emotions and bedroom romance
- Mom doing EFT for autistic son yields enormous changes in one month
- EFT in the snow -- creating comfort in the cold
- A touching story about Michael, his ailing aunt and EFT
- Stopping the flu in its early stages
- Letting intuition flow with EFT
- "How do I get really good at EFT?"
- A lesson in "letting go"
- Can we learn to be grateful no matter what?
- Improve your EFT sessions by waking up your senses
- Severe lung congestion clears with persistent daily EFT
- Was prostate cancer really the cause of Sam's Low Libido?
- EFT for the Sensitive Person -- Awakening the Wild Pony Within
- EFT helps release nervousness before an important meeting
- Impressive results with autism
- Releasing chaotic behavior through EFT
- EFT hat dance
- Deserving to live -- an intense memory resolved
- EFT helps with hair loss, facial blemishes, hay fever, smoking and PMS
- Relief for Bashful Bladder
- Expert gives us an inside look at Group EFT
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- Baerbel Borrows Benefits in her own EFT group and dissolves her creative blocks
- Tapping through a beginning seizure
- When EFT Doesn't Seem to Work
- Motion sickness averted through "Chasing the Pain."
- More on EFT and Reframing by Tania Prince
- Consistent and Impressive results from EFT group work
- Gordon was in a psychiatric hospital for two years and was released two weeks after one EFT session
- How feelings in the body are related to emotional clearing
- EFT for the Inner Child
- EFT for food poisoning
- Two cases of doing EFT in public without looking silly
- Improving romantic openness and enjoyment with EFT
- EFT for Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) - "You can't make me!"
- EFT brings beauty to a hospice setting
- EFT collapses competing thoughts and thus aids The Law of Attraction
- Teresa Knezek treats her own Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) -- including a 3 year followup
- How to transform disappointment into gratitude
- Raising your metabolism with EFT
- EFT Question Tapping
- When EFT gives only temporary results
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- Thoughts on resolving difficult physical problems
- A unique way to expand EFT
- EFT removes a pesky "phantom itch"
- Tips for conducting intensive EFT sessions -- a several day case regarding Bulimia
- Create acceptance of your life with EFT
- Clearing a food aversion in 5 minutes
- What would appear to be the main issue may not be so
- How long should the flu last?
- EFT for making your voice stronger
- A new kind of mosquito relief?
- Katie's posture and her many emotional issues
- Try fork bending with EFT
- When conflicting beliefs keep us stuck
- A clever approach to finding core memories
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- An adventure within the Palace of Possibilities
- Being Specific
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A detailed EFT oriented session via email for a client with serious issues
Important Note: This article was written prior to 2010 and is now outdated. Please use my newest advancement, Optimal EFT. It is more efficient, more powerful and clearly explained in my free e-book, The Unseen Therapist™. Best wishes, Gary
Hi Everyone,
Nancy Porter-Steele from Canada provides this detailed account of her client's progress and their email sessions. Note that Nancy is a seasoned professional and is well trained for this sort of process. This should not be tried for such serious issues by Newcomers to this arena. For the professional, however, there is much to learn here.
Hugs, Gary
Hi, Gary.
Some time ago, I accepted a request to conduct psychotherapy by email using EFT, with the agreement that the client would write up her experience and allow me to publish it; and the further agreement that if it took me more than a few minutes now and then, we would work out a monetary payment as well. Here is the result.
From: Jane Doe
From age five, when my parents separated, with my father, brother, toys and dog just disappearing from my life and my mother telling me no one wanted me, I was in fear of being killed. My mother indulged in jealous rages and taught me self-hatred. Outside I was pretty, outgoing and optimistic; inside looked black.
I repressed and held in my anxieties and irrational thoughts. My stomach and muscles were always tight. Worry dominated my life. However, I was a good athlete, which allowed me some self-esteem; and I was determined to have a good life.
I married an easygoing athlete, and got away from my mother physically, but she was always in my head, twisting my thoughts. I believed I didn’t count, he did. Later I realized I had a hidden belief that if I put him first in the short run I would have his help in the long run. For years I was a traditional wife-and-mother. Then I began work and developed a very successful business career. As I became recognized, some chauvinist colleagues became jealous. They met with my husband to try to stop my success. He sided with them. I realized my expectation of his support in the long run had been false.
Divorced, I started trying to find myself. I spent fifteen years trying many methods, counselling, yoga, meditation, massage, reiki, self-esteem classes, medications intended to break down subconscious resistance, a deep breathing and focusing method that made me cough violently and throw up. I was always working against myself, though — fifteen years of psychological reversal, based on the fear of being killed if I helped myself, which I did not know was in my mind. Very expensive, very exhausting, and unrewarding over all. I had begun to contact the childhood trauma, but without a way of releasing its effects.
The therapists I had gone to had diagnosed me as having a personality disorder and self-destructive mentality. My life was fractured; my psyche was a mess of contradictions, very dissociated. I kept to myself, money exhausted, hiding a lot. An internet money coach started working with me on shame, blame and not asking for what I want, but as my inner hell became evident, he stopped, because this was work for a therapist, not a coach.
Distraught from being rejected by the coach, I accepted the persuasion of a former associate who had taken a seminar on EFT, was doing it every day, and had experienced relief of his asthma. I wasn’t able to say out loud “I accept myself”; I would swallow my words; but we kept working together. I moved into his house and we worked every night with EFT. As we progressed I started coughing hard again, now realizing this was part of the release of the bad stuff from childhood. We worked on a trauma-less approach.
I was not clear what the internal problems were. I knew I had problems relating to people, and problems knowing myself. I tried going to sleep listening to tapes designed to implant good thoughts. This made me fearful, anxious, and physically ill. But it was working. The tapes brought the subjects to the surface and I tapped them out, with my housemate’s help. I worked on releasing past relationships, spirituality vs Christianity, loving myself, opening to love. I hardly went to work for four months. Luckily, my job allows me to sell large products quickly, so I could sell once a month, and get a commission, enough to live on.
I now felt worthy of a good therapist. Nancy Porter-Steele agreed to work with me by email, provided I would write up my experience and allow it to be published.
Nancy used Transactional Analysis (ego states) and psychotherapy. On my own, I still couldn’t see what was going wrong with me. Therapists had said I was my own worst enemy. Nancy pointed out where to work and what to tap on. I did the work and kept tapping. My cough was subsiding (less bad stuff to get out). I was winning. Working with the psychological reversal helped me to get past the traps that existed in my subconscious. Nancy and I emailed for about a month and I worked night and day, tapping. I got clearer and clearer, and finally got more of a clear picture of the wonderful me.
I started EFT in September, and with Nancy's help during the following March, my life has straightened out. I have made a commitment to a healthy lifestyle and I am adjusting to it, as it's OK for things to go right in my life. I am letting people come closer to me without having conflict, and my business is starting to fall in place.
I can appreciate the healthy parts of my personality: a sense of humour, fun, the values of good work ethics, and love of family which came from my father's teachings in the early years.
I still tap every day, and it is part of my lifestyle. Some of my realizations: When I was a child, my mother emotionally traumatized me whenever I did things that were right for myself. She punished me when I succeeded. She taught me to hate and to be judgmental of people's faults. I blamed myself for all my problems. I was molested when I was 11 years old by my mother's lover; she led him to my bed. This corrupted my sexuality, leaving me very rigid with respect to sex.
Having been diagnosed with a personality disorder and self-destructive mentality had left me with the question: how do I change my personality to become healthy and self supporting? The answer: good guidance into the abyss of the subconscious, learning to be specific (by starting generally) and tapping out the bad stuff. I have more clarity each day. A happier person is appearing.
Here are some notes of the emails between Nancy and me in my process of uncovering my wonderful self.
(I had emailed to Nancy about how smart she is)
N: Jane, so far as my being smart, keep in mind that 'it takes one to know one.' This suggests an item for you to tap on: “I see good qualities in others, don't realize I'm projecting them”
Looks to me like you made some early decisions about 'I shouldn't be me' or 'I am not important' 'whatever I do, I won't succeed' or something similar.
I will suggest a different technique to use for investigating what it is that hasn't been let go of yet, if you're willing to try it out: Set up two chairs facing each other. In the first chair, be the grownup person that you are, with all your experience and life learning. In the other chair be the little girl that you were.
As the grownup, talk to the little Jane in this general fashion: (Leave a pause now and then and find out what the little girl is feeling and wants to say.)
'I'm the grownup Jane. I grew out of you. I'm with you for the rest of your life. We can never be separated, we're in the same body. I wasn't there back then, because I had to grow out of you. You're the most important person in the world to me. If it weren't for you, I wouldn't be here.
'I want to know anything that you need and want so that I can use my grownup abilities to take care of you now. Will you tell me?
'Will you tell me what stands in the way of being comfortable with both taking care of myself and doing my work?'
Another way to ask this, depending on what seems more clear to the Child in you, is 'What is the good intention of limiting myself to either taking good care of myself, or getting my work done?'
It is possible that you will come across a stubborn or rebellious, autonomy-seeking aspect of the Child. If so, welcome her with joy, find out everything she has to say, appreciate her strength and loyalty to her beliefs and decisions, and let me know what she informs you.
You said: “I did not relate to the die or be killed issue, because I didn't want to think it possible to think such a horrible thought.”
Jane, this kind of belief is frequent among children who are not given the kind of parenting they need, regardless of the circumstances. Inevitable, really, given the way a child's mind is structured. Nothing to be ashamed of.
Let me know how this latest experiment goes.
Next:
Jane,
Your 3-year-old is a champion. She deserves much praise for being stubborn and determined and doing what she had decided was necessary all these years. When she is satisfied with your changes, my guess is she will be happy to turn over the work she's been doing to the grownup Jane, and head for happy times, playing in the ways that suit her best, probably including enjoying entrepreneurship.
What no child could ever know is that automatically, in childhood, a copy of mother is being stored. That copy, carried with you 24 hours a day, is a constant influence, which either you are accepting or fighting against, in either case using up energy. You can change the mother you've had in your own system.
I suggest tapping on this:
...I've had this vicious mother living in my head all these years...
...I haven't yet released the mother who treats me so badly...
...this remaining mother influence...
Let me know how this goes.
Nancy
Next:
Ask around inside yourself:
'Will the part that knows what stands in the way of my being independent please be so kind as to talk to me and tell me what positive it's trying to do for me?'
Make notes on the response. Then do the same thing for: 'Will the part that knows what stands in the way of my being capable of providing for myself please be so kind as to talk to me and tell me what positive it's trying to do for me?'
'Will the part that knows what stands in the way of my caring for my entire self, both grownup and child, please be so kind as to talk to me and tell me what positive it's trying to do for me?'
This will probably clarify the issues to tap on.
Again, it may be that the stubborn child is in the picture, for example: 'Mother said I was no-good, so I'll show her how no-good I can be.' If some response like this arises, be appreciative and celebrate the Child for whatever she says and whatever she has been doing, because it was intendedto support autonomy. Absolutely no negative view of the Child!
If you have doubt what issue to tap on, write me what the responses to your questions were and I'll help sort them.
Nancy
Next:
J: I am doing pretty good...really being able to figure things out in my improvement in exercises and food. So I am quite proud of myself. Also, I am talking every day to my 3 year old inner child and we are getting along very well.
N: Congratulations. Great.
J: I just have one dilemma...When I try to work (earn a living) for my own well-being, I meet with stress and defeat, easy enough to do if I am working for my family.
N: Try out: '...have believed it was either me or others...' '...haven't yet realized I can only truly support others if I support myself...'
J: Also, my mind bounces back between choices of working and being independent or having a great guy? (this does not seem together for me)
N: Try out: '...this funny idea that a really great guy would want a helpless, dependent woman...' '...have yet to learn about being interdependent, two competent people together...'
Looks to me like it's part of getting psychologically separated and self-responsible without becoming isolated and artificially independent, instead of interdependent, a problem that developmentally is from age 2-3.
Keep on with the inner child work at that age.
J: The work we started on just keeps processing in me for the better. I
feel happy about my life, I feel unblocked in most cases.
N: Terrific. Carry on.
Next:
J: I have done the exercises with my mother, father and grandfather in another chair and tapped for them (very effective). I am getting more secure in self.
I realize, however, that I resist money. I have a bunch of beliefs that money has power over me and makes me bad.
Any thoughts for this block. I am getting a business coach to help me strengthen my approach to my business and increase my numbers (so I need to let go of what stops me, so I can get on track and stay there). I have done this with food and exercise, but I need to do it with business.
Thanks, Jane
Next:
Got a real estate coach and let go of fearing death for wanting and getting what I needed and wanted.
Thanks, Nancy. I was told I was crazy! So maybe crazy people are just full of fear, that they will die or be killed if they get healthy?
Jane
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