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Other Emotional Issues

Anger Management

EFT resolves long term resentment

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Dave Rourke successfully used EFT to help a man get beyond a long held, intense anger. At the end the client said, "For the last 10 and a half years I couldn't forgive the man who murdered my sister. I've been in 3 treatment centers and have lost several jobs because of my anger. I'm telling you Dave, it's gone!" This is an important article because it points so clearly to EFT's ability to handle even the most intense of emotional issues.

By David Rourke


I have to share an experience I had while presenting EFT to a group of people who work in the addictions field. The audience was comprised of 73 people, 24 of these people were actually clients in a local residential treatment program for substance abuse.

I wanted to make a point to the audience that with EFT the client doesn't even have to disclose what the problem is. As long as he or she is thinking about the issue, EFT can work effectively.

I asked the audience if there is anyone who has a resentment that they'd like to get rid of but is not willing to share it with the rest of the people in the room. A voice from the back said "I have a resentment!!" Up stepped one of the residents of the treatment centre. He was a hard looking fellow (shaved head, goatee, tattoos and very hard, chiseled facial features).

We sat face to face with the audience to our side. He reported that on a scale of 0-10 his emotional intensity was a thousand. We started with the sore spot ("I want to be completely free of this resentment") followed by the set up statements "Even though I have this resentment.... I deeply and completely accept myself...I love and forgive myself...I choose to let it go".

Our first round was an EFT sandwich which he reported brought his intensity down to a 6. I could see him starting to think to himself "Hmmm, what's happening here?" The next round brought an audible gasp from the audience. You could actually see this man's facial features melt and become 'soft' looking. He said "It's gone!". Members of the audience said, "We can tell! You look different!"

Of course I had to test the work so I started trying to get him aggravated again. I had limited information on what the issue was so I just let my intuition say whatever came out of my mouth. He still reported no rise, he just said that he felt so much lighter.

Over lunch I asked him if he would mind telling me the issue in confidence so that I would be in a better position to help him really clear the issue. He said to me "For the last 10 and a half years I couldn't forgive the man who murdered my sister. I've been in 3 treatment centers and have lost several jobs because of my anger. I'm telling you Dave, it's gone!"

At the end of the day he came to me, tears rolling down his cheeks, and said "You have absolutely no idea about how much you have helped me today. I know I have a chance to make it at recovery now." Of course we talked about serendipitous moments and how his Higher Power brought us together at the right time.

He called me the other day (which prompted this letter) saying that he has been clean now for over 4 months, a record for him! Wow!!!

In Loving Service,

Dave Rourke


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