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Other Emotional Issues

Anger Management

Releasing anger patterns with EFT

Important Note: This article was written prior to 2010 and is now outdated. Please use my newest advancement, Optimal EFT. It is more efficient, more powerful and clearly explained in my free e-book, The Unseen Therapist™.  Best wishes, Gary

Note: This article assumes you have a working knowledge of EFT. Newcomers can still learn from it but are advised to peruse our Free Gold Standard (Official) EFT Tutorial™ for a more complete understanding.

Hi Everyone,

Rod Sherwin from Australia gives us some specific procedures for dealing with anger. He says, "Here I present a longer EFT script that I hope will help you - as it did me - to change your anger pattern."

Hugs, Gary

By Rod Sherwin

We all have a pattern of anger.  Some of us express it when it is still small.  Some of us suppress it deep inside fighting to maintain control of it, too scared to express it, and instead we experience it as disease.  And some of us - me included - bottle it up until it bursts out like a volcano surprising everyone around us with because we had not even given a hint that anything was wrong.

I'm going to focus on the last pattern as this is one that I can speak about from personal experience.  As a child, I had been labeled as having "a bad temper".  But, if I accept this label, then I give away my responsibility for control of my behaviour.  We are not the victim of our emotions.  There are patterns to every emotion that, if we can identify them, we can interrupt the pattern and change our behaviour before it causes the damage we so fear.  So how does your anger pattern develop?

I delivered an outburst of anger one evening with my family that stunned everyone.  But it wasn't as instantaneous as it may have seemed.  The anger had been brewing throughout the day from one incident early in the day which annoyed me.  Another a little later on added to the fire.  And from then on I was looking for an excuse to unload at the slightest further provocation.  So when I received one further and very minor barb, I unloaded with full power that was equivalent to swatting a fly with a barbell.

Had I taken the time to apply EFT at the first perceived slight and gotten deep into and under the anger, then I may have been able to voice my concerns without the associated outburst.

Here I present a longer EFT script that I hope will help you - as it did me - to change your anger pattern.  I spent at least half an hour using the various parts of this to work on my anger pattern.  Note that I refer to the wrist points.  The wrist points can be an alternative to tapping all the finger points and involve tapping the inside of the wrists together.

First you need to start with how you feel in yourself about the anger. Start and continue tapping on the EFT points while saying the phrases:

Karate Chop: I was so angry that I can't accept myself. I'm disappointed in myself. I should be better than this. They didn't deserve to be the brunt of my anger. I feel so ugly and ashamed at what I did. I don't know if I will ever be able to change this. I feel like I have no control over my anger. I don't know if I can ever accept myself when I can get so angry.

Top of Head: This anger feels more powerful than me.

Eyebrow: I don't feel like I can control it.

Side of Eye: Part of me likes the feeling of power that comes with the anger.

Under Eye: Part of me is so ashamed.

Under Nose: I can't really accept myself when I can get this angry.

Chin Point: I remember the look on their faces when I was angry.

Collarbone: The fear in their faces, I don't want them to be afraid of me.

Under Arm: I'm so afraid that the damage done can't be undone. I don't know if I deserve to be free of this guilt.

Wrist Points: I don't believe anyone can really love me when I have this anger within me; I can't really love myself when I know it's there.

Continue to tap for a few rounds to cover everything you feel and say about and to yourself about how you behaved.  Now we will use EFT to work on the pattern around the anger.

Karate Chop: Even though it feels like I have no control over my anger, I choose to notice the way it develops. I have a pattern of anger than can be changed.  Even though I have a habit of being angry, I choose to bring to my conscious mind the way my anger develops, so that I can heal it.

Top of Head: What is the first thing that happens in my body when I'm starting to feel angry?

Eyebrows: What do I say to myself that tells me I'm getting angry?

Side of Eye: Where in my body do I notice the fire of my anger building?

Under Eye: There are a number of steps to my anger and I choose to pay attention and notice them.

Under Nose: What is the very first thing that happens that tells me I'm getting angry.

Chin Point: I give myself permission to stop a conversation when I notice the first indicators of anger so that I can do some EFT and deal with the feeling.

Collarbone: As I notice my anger pattern, I gain power over it.

Under Arm: There are a number of things that occur before my anger bursts out, and I choose to notice each of them.

Wrist Points: This pattern has been unconscious until now but I'm making it conscious so that I can change it.

Noticing how your anger builds helps unravel the mystery of full blown explosions that nobody sees coming.  You then have the ability to notice what is triggering your anger and clear those individual triggers.  Maybe it's a tone of voice or a look you receive which starts to get you angry.  So do some tapping on the trigger.

Karate Chop: I felt put down by their sarcastic tone of voice.  I felt put down and disrespected by their tone of voice.  It reminds me of being talked down to as a child.  I don't want to be talked to like that because I'm now an adult.

Top of Head: Feeling talked down to like a child.

Eyebrow: Feeling disrespected.

Side of Eye: That tone of voice that gets me angry.

Under Eye: I want to release all reference events for this trigger.

Under Nose: I'm clearing this trigger for my anger.

Chin Point: That tone of voice that still gets me angry.

Collarbone: I won't let anyone talk to me that way.

Under Arm: I want to stand up for myself without having to get angry. I am an adult who can express myself.

Wrist Points: As I clear this trigger, I am beginning to accept myself even more.

There may be more than one trigger to your anger so continue to tap on each trigger that contributes to your anger pattern.  You may still have shame, guilt, and regret about what happened so here is a final round to do some more clearing.

Karate Chop: Even though I'm still ashamed at getting so angry, I'm beginning to accept myself. Even though I regret what I did and wish that I could go back and change things, I'm open to accepting myself and the mistakes I made as part of being human.  I'm doing my best to improve my behaviour, identifying patterns of anger, and clearing the triggers.

Top of Head: Remaining shame for what happened.

Eyebrows: Remaining regret for how I said what I did.

Side of Eye: Remaining sadness at the hurt I caused.

Under Eye: Remaining shame, regret, and sadness.

Under Nose: I choose to notice my anger patterns and diffuse them as soon as I do.

Chin Point: I choose to be forgiving of myself as I do my best to change my behaviour.

Collarbone: I'm glad I know how to tap so that I can clear my anger patterns.

Under Arm: I'm learning to access the power within my anger and express it in constructive ways.

Wrist Points: I'm noticing and celebrating even the smallest of improvements in my behaviour and I'm becoming even more loving and accepting of myself.

We cannot deny our emotions as they are part of what makes us human but we can change the patterns, triggers and ways that we express them.

Rod Sherwin


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