- Weight Loss
- Dr. Carol Look presents a letter from Janet on weight loss
- The grieving widow with many weighty issues
- EFT for underlying weight issues provides an impressive list of benefits
- Addictions and a class on The Roots of Weight
- New Treatment for Emotional Eating Provides Answer for Unsuccessful Dieters -- Cravings Subside in 80% of Cases
- Ange plays with EFT words while dropping pounds and improving other issues
- Weight loss case--25 pounds
- Doctors Use Acupressure Technique Instead of Drugs to Combat Emotional Eating
- Mother Slims Down Without Workouts!
- For weight loss: Clearing out major emotional barriers
- A unique perspective on weight-loss
- Weight Loss Technique Eliminates Emotional Overeating: Halts Need for Comfort Foods
- "Why would I need to hide my stomach when I was not fat?
- Following up on a 30 pound weight loss
- Weight loss--God you're fat
- Why people lose weight after using EFT on abundance issues
- Dr. Carol Look's compulsive overeating and weight loss protocol
- To Achieve Weight Loss, Emotional Issues Had to go First
- A core emotional issue that was responsible for weight gain
- Using the client's cravings to enter into addictions and overweight cases
- Successful Weight Loss Over the Phone
- EFT to address damaged pituitary gland results in slimming down
- Collapsing "hurtful thoughts" during a weight loss teleclass
- Dr. Carol Look's series on weight loss.
- A daily EFT tapping suggestion for slimming down
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Weight Loss
Collapsing "hurtful thoughts" during a weight loss teleclass
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Carol Solomon, PhD recently conducted a teleclass wherein one of the participants identified many hurtful comments about her weight. Such comments, of course, are often internalized and, until resolved, can cause the type of internal unrest that causes one to overeat. Carol describes many EFT Setup phrases for these comments that can be generalized to many other cases. Very useful.
Dear Gary,
During a recent teleclass on how to lose weight with EFT, I was helping the participants identify specific events. One woman identified several negative comments that her parents had said to her while growing up.
For instance, her mother said things like "I thought you were on a diet, and now you are having butter on your toast." Her father once said to her "everyone in my senior group thinks you are my mother because you are so fat".
As hurtful as these comments were, the real kicker was when she weighed 123 pounds, and her husband told her she was fat. At the time, she had a 22-inch waist.
We discussed a little bit about what the comments meant to her, and what she told herself afterwards. I find that it is often not so much the comment itself, but what the client tells themselves, what conclusions they make following the hurtful comment.
The progression of statements can tell the story of what occurs after the hurtful comments. If the practitioner gets this right, it is extremely helpful to the client.
We then did the highly effective Borrowing Benefits procedure with the class. Here are the statements we used:
Even though I don't feel good about this issue, I deeply love and accept myself.
Even though my husband said I was fat when I weighed 123 pounds, I deeply and completely accept myself now.
Even though I felt hurt, and I thought I would never be good enough for him, I deeply and profoundly accept myself.
Even though his opinion was very important to me, I deeply love and accept myself.
Even though I started believing I was fat, just because he said so, and I felt hopeless . . . I didn't know what to do, I deeply and completely accept myself now.
Even though I knew he was wrong, I am open to the possibility of accepting what happened . . . maybe even forgiving him.
Even though I felt so judged, I am open to the possibility that he was doing the best he could at the time (at this point, she interrupted me, saying "I don't believe that".)
Even though I felt so judged, I choose to know that he had his own issues, and it had nothing to do with me. (This statement is important to counteract the tendency for people to blame themselves, and to take comments personally.)
We did 2 rounds of tapping around the body with statements like these:
Feeling judged
It hurt
I can't believe my own husband would say that
I didn't know what I had to do to please him
I felt hopeless
He had his own issues
But it is still costing me now
I may have to accept it and understand that it is his problem
I may even have to forgive him, at least be open to that possibility
I am open to the possibility of letting it go
Not for him, but for me
Then we ended with a positive round:
Feeling calmer
Relaxed and calm
I choose to know the truth
I stand in the truth
Feeling calm
I can calm myself no matter what anyone says to me
Letting it go
Feeling peaceful
I can find my own peace
Needless to say, this really hit the mark for her. She had been carrying around these hurtful comments for decades. She called the next day and said that she no longer felt this heavy, depressed feeling that she used to wake up with every morning, and she didn't feel tempted to overeat to soothe her feelings. Yeah!
Carol Solomon, Ph.D.
Certified Mentor Coach
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