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Successful use of EFT after a miscarriage

Important Note: This article was written prior to 2010 and is now outdated. Please use my newest advancement, Optimal EFT. It is more efficient, more powerful and clearly explained in my free e-book, The Unseen Therapist™.  Best wishes, Gary

Hi Everyone,

In 20 minutes Dr. Alexander Lees used EFT to help "Janet" to completely resolve the traumatic experience of a miscarriage. Here are Janet's words describing the initial severity of the problem....

"I miscarried yesterday, and I'm a total wreck," I can't go to work, I can't focus. I wake up over and over again. I must have cried in my sleep......"

After EFT, Dr Lees tested the result by introducing humor into this otherwise devastating experience. To his delight, Janet giggled. I find humor, even in the most serious of circumstances, to be a solid test of how well a trauma has been resolved. If the client laughs, you have likely resolved the issue. If not, you have more work to do.

At the end of his article Dr. Lees offers an interesting "neuropeptide" explanation for the biology of emotions.

Hugs, Gary

By Dr. Alexander Lees

I have believed for a long time that zeroing in on the emotional component of a presented issue is the key. It seems to me that emotion is the "fuel" that runs the problem, and finding ways to help a person feel better is a pivotal point in changework. EFT, thankfully, zeroes right in on that fuel tank, and drains it. More often than not, the "problem" the client and I were going to devote so much time to simply collapses, now devoid of the fuel necessary to keep it going. What a simple, yet powerful technique!

Over the years as a psychotherapist, I have learned to deal with a variety of issues. I've also found that the more I think like an "EFTer" the more quickly relief is obtained for the client. Take for example, the story starting in the next paragraph. By contrast, if I had been presented with such an upsetting situation a few short years ago, (pre EFT) I would have become much more involved in content. There is nothing inherently wrong with this natural human response, per se, but as a therapist, I sincerely believe that an obligation exists to help relieve suffering as quickly as possible.

"Janet" had called the night before, and spoken to Berit (my wife). "I booked her in immediately", said my better half. "She didn't tell me the reason for needing an appointment, but she was so upset I couldn't quite make out what she was saying. I just told her you would start earlier and see her first thing in the morning. I also told her you have a break in the afternoon, and she could come in again if she needed to."

"Thank you for seeing me with such short notice," Janet gasped between bouts of crying and breathlessness. "You're welcome," I replied as I quickly walked to her chair and began tapping. I had seen Janet some months prior for other issues, and she was reasonably familiar with EFT.

Within a few moments, Janet had relaxed sufficiently to continue. "I miscarried yesterday, and I'm a total wreck," she began. "I can't go to work, I can't focus. I wake up over and over again. I must have cried in my sleep......"

We again tapped a round, starting with the P.R. point and saying "Even though I lost the baby, I deeply and completely accept myself." This was repeated three times. We then tapped the remaining point for -- "This loss." A minute later, Janet said, "I just feel like such a failure," and began to cry again. The next round used the phrase, "This failure." We didn't use the P.R. point.

The next statement offered was, "I'm sure my husband will blame me...."

I interrupted and, starting with the P.R. point, had her repeat three times, "Even though my husband will blame me, and I believe it's all my fault, I deeply and completely accept myself." Again, I had Janet repeat this, with emphasis, three times. We then did a round using the reminder phrase, "Blame and fault."

The next statement was -- "I'm scared it'll happen again, 'cause it's probably genetic or something." As some colour had now returned to her face, I checked to see if we could try humour. Janet said, "Okay, give it a whirl."

Tapping the P.R. point once again, we began with, "Even though I miscarried, which proves I'm from a defective gene pool, and the only thing left is to forget about this baby business, and become a psychotherapist, none-the-less, I deeply and completely accept myself." We completed the round using the reminder phrase, "Defective genes," or so I thought. I asked Janet, "When I was saying 'defective genes,' what were you repeating in your mind?"

"This guy's a nut," she giggled in response.

"Oh really," I said, looking suitably hurt. "Yea", Janet stated, "I thought this would take a few hours to fix, and we've only been here for less than half an hour. I'm feeling a lot better." The rest of the session was pretty much small talk, giving me a chance to check if there were any hidden aspects we may have missed that also needed attention.

The only thing that came up was "How come I didn't think to tap on this myself?" My response,"Well, when we are up to our butts in alligators, it's sometimes difficult to remember..." was interrupted by "Never mind that, when's the next seminar? I think it's time both 'Ron' and I learned more about it. Do you think it would help him?"

"Husband's as you know are definitely from a defective gene pool..." I began. "I'll go talk to Berit," Janet said. To this I replied, "And I'll tell her to rename it, 'Defective Gene Pool Therapy'. Bring your husband. It'll be a hit."

"Well, she's definitely coping better," I mused, as Janet left my office. Three days later Janet called and verified that she was definitely coping well, and no further appointments concerning this issue were needed. Her phone call caused me to replay the session in my head. Fifteen, twenty minutes tops, and someone that had just gone through a devastating experience is well on her way to moving past it. My mind drifted back to other similar cases I'd treated in the past, before having learned EFT. There is no argument that the methods I used were successful. The follow-up calls supported that conclusion admirably.

So what is the difference then? Why bother to learn a new technique, such as EFT, when one already has proven ways of helping people through difficult times? I'm sure someone could write an entire article on that one question alone, but for me, I'm satisfied with the following answer: It's fast, relatively simple to apply, flexible, and most of all, often works when nothing else does. Simply put, it drains the fuel that runs the problem.

Now, the "left brainers" in my world want to know the mechanism. How, some have asked, can tapping a few places on the body, with a finger, and mumbling a few words, affect psychological, attitudinal and physiological phenomena?

Granted, they've experienced the application of EFT, but rather than say, "Gee, I feel great, now I can get on with my life," the experience usually evokes their need to "understand" it. Having been a student of Psychoneuroimmunology (the mind/body connection) for some time, I enjoy referring them to Dr. Bruce Lipton's and Dr. Candace Pert's contributions for an even better understanding of the Mind/Body communication.

Simply put, the biochemical equivalent of the emotions is called a neuropeptide. The neuropeptide influences our bodies' functionality. It seems to me that an unwanted emotion converts into an unwanted neuropeptide, a chemical message the body reads and then responds to, right down to the cellular level. It certainly doesn't require a PhD to understand that having "bad codes" coursing through our bodies is not a good thing, does it?

So, using EFT efficiently removes the unwanted emotional response, the precursor for the neuropeptide. I certainly don't profess to understand the process fully, certainly nowhere near the level of such distinguished scientists as Dr. Pert and Dr. Lipton. But I do know I have found a simple and effective means of helping others and myself to feel better, and that's fine with me. The fact there is some science out there to explain the mechanism involved is icing on the cake. And no, the majority of my clients have no knowledge of the science either.

EFT works anyway.

Dr. Alexander R. Lees


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