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Three possible reframes for people struggling with sadness

Important Note: This article was written prior to 2010 and is now outdated. Please use my newest advancement, Optimal EFT. It is more efficient, more powerful and clearly explained in my free e-book, The Unseen Therapist™.  Best wishes, Gary

Note: This article assumes you have a working knowledge of EFT. Newcomers can still learn from it but are advised to peruse our Free Gold Standard (Official) EFT Tutorial™ for a more complete understanding.

Hi Everyone,

Reframing is the therapeutic art of looking at things differently. In the general sense, it is a foundational goal of most emotional therapy practices. Fortunately, with EFT, efforts to reframe "land" much better than with conventional means. Stewart Robertson from Scotland gives some reframing examples you may find useful.

Hugs, Gary

By Stewart Robertson

As you know, both EFT and reframing each have their own substantial merits when used individually.  But used together, the result is worth much more than the sum of the parts.  In my experience I think a two-way street exists with EFT & reframing, such that:

Using EFT whilst reframing appears to give the reframes offered a higher hit-rate than not;

The reframes themselves seem to soften the individual’s resistance and vibration regardless, and therefore enhances the effectiveness of the EFT being delivered.

Here are three specific ideas to use in the style of tapping in the positive with clients who are stuck specifically in emotional themes of sadness, disappointment, or hurt.  Typically I find that using the usual EFT process and tapping these in the positive will help them land smoothly in your client’s system.  Or you can simply discuss with your client the possible alternative meanings behind a specific bothersome event whilst tapping the Karate Chop point.  Experiment with these and adjust them to suit your client’s specific memory:

  1. In this situation, is it possible that you’re assuming that he, she or it is your *only* source of love?  We can get love from lots of places, there’s no need to get our need for love met only just from one source … maybe it’s possible to look in another direction to get what you want.  Or could there be other ways of showing yourself the love that you’re seeking from others?  Remember that according to the law of attraction, all we need to do is put our wants out there and know they will be met, don’t be too choosy about *how* they will be met.
  2. If you’re feeling left out, or rejected, or lost ... how did you decide that what others have … or where they’re at … is somehow better, or more valuable, important, or worthwhile than where you’re at or what you have?  Might it be possible that by assuming what you don’t have is better, you are reducing your ability to appreciate what you *do* have, in the here and now?
  3. Could it be possible that what you’re looking for is actually there; maybe the person or situation just has a different way of showing it ... or shows it in a way that demands “finely tuned” perceptive skills?  What you’re looking for could be there … just not in the amount, quality, way, or timeliness that you’re expecting (based on *your* expectations and filters), right at this specific moment in time.  Is it possible that it’s been there in past moments too, when they were expressing it to you, but you didn’t have the opportunity or resources or perception to pick it up?

Long distance hugs from Scotland,



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