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EFT: The Gift to Unwrap and Use before the Holidays!

Important Note: This article was written prior to 2010 and is now outdated. Please use my newest advancement, Optimal EFT. It is more efficient, more powerful and clearly explained in my free e-book, The Unseen Therapist™.  Best wishes, Gary

Hi Everyone,

Many thanks to AnaMaria Herrera for these EFT approaches. They can reduce the conflicts and other difficulties that sometimes occur during the holidays.

Hugs, Gary

By AnaMaria Herrera

We all know what happens during the holiday season: Shopping, festivities, family and food. Even though we are hearing holiday songs piped in the stores, lights and decorations adorning windows of homes and stores, this can be a challenging time for many.  The two main areas that seem to be especially challenging are Family and Food.  Luckily for us we have a wonderful gift, EFT, to assist us at this season and in this article I address some specific situations and suggestions for set up statements to use.


Three family situations that can be especially tough at holiday gatherings are:

1. Conflict with a particular family member - It can be uncomfortable in any setting - holidays or not -to share a meal with someone with whom you have had arguments and tensions in the past. Here are some set up statements to explore:

Even though I dread seeing (name of person)…

Even though a part of me wants to stay home to avoid seeing (name of person),another part of me wants to enjoy the other family members/friends, so I am choosing to be surprisingly calm and confident anyway

Even though I am remembering how uncomfortable I feel when I see (name of person), I am open to being grounded and centered at the event.

2. Feeling pressured by parents, grandparents or siblings - You have been dating your significant other for some time, and you know subtle and not-so-subtle hints will be made about ‘tying the knot.’  Or maybe you have been married or living together for some time and you are anticipating your Mom or Grandma’s comment, “Oh, I just hope I live long enough around to see my grandchildren.” GULP!  EFT to the rescue!

Even though I am getting uncomfortable because I know my family member (fill in name) will ask “So, when is (name) going to pop the question”…

Even though I am feeling nervous that someone will ask when are we going to settle down and afraid I will get defensive and irritable…

Even though I am feeling that tension in my stomach dreading my Mom or grandma saying, “I just hope I live long enough to see my grandchildren,” I am choosing to feel grounded and lighthearted

3. First holiday after a loss*

Perhaps you have just separated or divorced this past year, or were laid off from your job.  Maybe this is your first holiday after your spouse or a family member has died.  These are all forms of loss, which can be a particularly sensitive topic around the holidays especially when the emphasis is on ‘good cheer.’  Give one of these set up statements a go:

Even though I am feeling anxious because I know I will be asked where (ex-husband or wife) is and a part of me wants to just stay home to avoid questions and their pity…

Even though I feel really sad as this is first holiday without (name) and I am afraid I will start to get emotional in front of everyone…

Even though I am dreading people asking about my job and they don’t know I was laid off and really don’t want to talk about it…


Overeating - Sweets, meats and treats … the holidays are about eating delicious dishes and favorite foods that are prepared for particular festivities.  It can also be a time of dread for those that are desiring to not overindulge and feel guilty after.  Try one of these set ups, modifying words to your specific situation and your specific feelings.

Even though I am really getting nervous to be around all those goodies and not pig out…

Even though A part of me doesn’t think I can be in control and not overeat…

Even though I have being doing so well in my new way of eating and am getting fearful that I will eat too much and feel guilty later…

Do this EFT work long before the events you are attending.  But don’t forget you can also so do EFT on the spot at the events!  Feeling tension with a family member?  Wanting to take a third slice of pumpkin pie?  Slip into the bathroom or quiet corner, or even dash into your car and have an EFT quickie!

I also want to suggest scheduling a session with an EFT practitioner before the holiday events. You know how people run to their doctor and have flu shots before winter or the holiday season? Think of getting your own ‘shot in the arm’ with EFT before facing the festivities! (This goes for EFT practitioners as well.)

Remember as you are bustling about this season, to unwrap and use this most wonderful gift you already have, EFT, so that your holiday season can truly be festive and fun.

AnaMaria Herrera

“Agent EFT”

PS: While I have included suggestions for treating yourself with EFT, in the case of loss/grief or in chronic overeating/food issues doing EFT on yourself does not replace professional assistance, but rather works powerfully in conjunction with professional help.


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